Twenty pounds doesn't make much of a difference in appearance when one weighs 300 pounds and has lost 20. But gosh, it sure feels like a major achievement to me. It is so discouraging that no one notices.

It seems to me that once people in your world see you as seriously obese, they don't really look at you anymore. How else could I have lost 53 pounds and have no one notice?

I have started pointing out to people that I have lost 53 pounds. They looked a bit surprised, then take a good look at me. They want to ooh and aah but they don't really see a big difference. "Oh yeah," they might say, "you have lost some weight".

This is so discouraging!

To those folks reading who have forty pounds or less to lose, try and imagine losing thirty pounds without one single person noticing. It would never happen.