I'm sorry if this is posted on the wrong place.

I have a question those who have lost alot of weight, do self confidence come back when you reach your goal, or is that something you need to work on separately. Being big for more then 2/3 of your life, I can't imagine being thin/normal anymore.

I've never been a negative person (but never a confident person), even after all those look people give to me, and being spit on by drunken old man for my size, I always kept a positive outlook. But now I'm in the mid 30s things seems to be gloomier. This "things" that used not bother me now start to crave my heart little by little. People are getting married around me, and I'm here having trouble to connect to anyone socially. I am having trouble moving forward now. Need some assurance that where I'm heading is not bleak like right now. Because I don't have much to hold on onto.

Well there is alot small small things that have been causing my downward spiral, the final straw was I guess my stupidity of putting my hand into boiling water. Posting my picture in the /amiugly/ reddit. How bad can it be, thought this guy. Little that he know that people are, well you obviously can see where this go. Sometimes, you know there is time where you just too tired to do anything, mentally. Just tired. Its 2.30 am and I'm mentally to tired to even sleep. sigh

Sorry for all this rant for just one simple question.