Hi, Doreen. You might try Ecco shoes/boots. They're not cheap, but they are made to fit narrow in the heel and looser across the front of the foot. I bought some shoes recently, and a friend of mine bought a lovely pair of hiking boots - very lightweight and quite smart looking, but sturdy. They were around $300, though.

Rachel

PS: I don't think you can get a men's five, though you might try a boy's shoe. I seem to have the same problems as you in buying shoes. I was quite pleased to find the Eccos.