You know there is another thread similar to this that asks, can we still be happy if we are fat and I think we can. Happiness comes from the inside out.
I tried to explain this the other day about the fact that we need positive reinforcement and not negative self hatred thoughts, especially if we are actively trying to work on our weight and health.
I think that self loathing only serves to create inner turmoil and pits the brain in a dark place whether we have lost all of our weight or not.