I know this sounds pathetic, but he is really loving and attentive, and this was (he claims) an incident (singular) that occured when I was (I concur) rejecting a physical relationship w/ him, and not attentive back, nor initiating anything physical btwn us. Soooo, he had no outlet but "Mrs. Palm & her 5 daughters" so to speak, and he was lonely, and the friend obliged with anonymous company & relief no strings, no tell. I found out by doing a lot of snooping. I know we have alot to work on, and that no, his cheating was NOT my "fault", but I recognize that I played a part in his choice, albeit unbeknownst to me. Anyhoo, we are going to counselling, and he and I have decided the marriage is work the work. Wish us luck.

As for that unhuman ex of yours,
---GOOD GOD!!
I am in shock!!! I am traumatized to just read it!
I will cry a little inside tonight for all the women who live with that type of person still, or with the memories of that in their past.

Poor monique! I bet you've never felt better now, lookng back, on what a life that was, and how happy hubby makes you now!