I need a little Motivation

[armoayjay]

I know i am not fat and i know that i am not "unattractive" but as a child i was always a little fat and never as skinny as my friends, for almost 3 weeks now i have been going on a almost zero carb diet, it is killer but my body is almost in a robotic state. I fake my confidence with my peers but i want the perfect body people see in magazines and on TV.
I've lost at least 5 pounds now and i feel like i haven't changed at all
i was wondering if any of yall have made it to your perfect body and if someone knows a way i can treat my insecurities

[kuukuu]

God love ya, sweetheart.

There is no such thing as a perfect body that hasn't seen a plastic surgeon. (Not advocating) And even then you still have to remember that perfection will be in the eye of the beholder.

So why not start with your eye? I challenge you to pick 3 things about yourself that's attractive and tell us about them.

As far as diet hints, make sure you're getting the exercise in. I like martial arts for toning, stretching, building muscle and aerobics. It's also a fantastic mental exercise and builds great confidence.

[mainecyn]

There isn't a "perfect body". I hated myself and was miserable at 230 lbs. felt insecure and ugly. I have dropped down, i don't feel any differently now than i did then. I still feel fat, i still feel ugly, i still feel that i am not good enough. It wasn't the weight, i thought that would be the answer since i've been over weight or obsese my entire adult life. Well, i've lost most of it. Now, all i see is what fat is left, the strech marks. I find anything i can that is wrong with me and dwell on it. I have discovered that the weight wasn't what was wrong, it was a symptom of what was really wrong-something inside of me emotionally. I look at me and see ugly. I (even today) then see people at work who tell me how amazing i look, what inspiration i am, how they want to be like me, what will power i have. I do not see what they wee in me, or feel like i am worth anything still. I need to face my demons, "fat" or "skinny" i feel the same way and still treat myself poorly. I try, have some days when i feel ok and not feel so bad about myself, they are not as often as the poor me and i hate myself days. There are always people who feel others have it better, always look better. I bet if you could read others minds during the day, those who interact with you, you would hear so many positive things about yourself. It has taken me almost a year to get used to hearing compliments and learning to accept them. It is difficult and i almost never believe them, but it helps. I took the advice mentioned above, tried to find things i liked about myself..it was next to impossible at first and it was silly tings like, i have nice nails, etc. But, the confidence grew a little at a time, so now, when someone compliments me, instead of laughing it off, or insulting myself, i listen and say thank you.

As far as the perfect body, it isn't out there-no one is perfect and aiming to look like the "airbrushed" models, that isn't something to torture yourself with. Those ladies don't even look like that without a staff to dress them, makeup, and airbrush all their flaws off the pictures. They all have things they hate about themselves too. You are beautiful, and i bet there are so many things that are pretty about you. Advice, start a journal where you can keep track of things and look back during your journey. I did..and i noticed that my attitude changed for the better-i may not be the most uplifting person, but i have to say i see things a littl emore positive now.

I understand the hate, the pain, the frustration, the things you say to yourself. I wish i could help take some of the pain away because i have been exactly where you are and i am that little voice i hear in my head that points out every flaw, real or imagined, with myself. It feels like you can't change fast enough. You have to look at the entire picture. Things will change, you are making the changes needed, you have started your journey.

[Hismouse]

I think a start is feed the insure feeling and thoughts every day. But they have to be possitive thought, get up thinking good thoughts and it is much easier as the day goes on.
If people say good things to you, see them in yourself, and thank them.
Is there anything that is perfect in this world, NO........
We see perfect because thats our beholder:) another person may think different.
Ugly is not a word for the outer side of a person, its for there behavior and meaness.
I think the heart of everyone speaks, not there looks.
I looked like a RAT when I was born, but my Mom always says, I was the best little baby and as I got older she saw something different in my behavior, and that made me. Not my looks.
I hold that story very close to me.
I think its important, because as we grow up people who we let into our lives can make us shine, or WE LET them bring us down. We have choices to believe them or believe in ourselves.. When we believe in ourselves we see the brightness of life. When we let the Verbal Abuse of another live in our minds we bring doom to every day. Don't let a abuser own your mind.
Feed your body with kindness and your heart with joy and your mind with good thoughts:) That will bring you as close to perfect as you will ever get:)