I can't get out of this funk I'm in..help!

[daisywench]

I've been in a very blue funk for weeks now, and can't seem to get out of it. I wake up every morning determined to be chipper, and upbeat, and by mid AM I wind up back in my old foul mood. I'm losing weight, clothes are hanging on me, but I still feel huge. I want to enjoy the new me, but feel like I've been trying so hard, sacrificing every day, and it just feels like I have so far still to go.

Noone understands. I tell my friends, they say "ditch the diet, it's not making you feel good". I can't. I can't express to anyone how important this is to me, to finally, finally, get rid of the "big girl" in me. I'm tired of ditching photographs, avoiding mirrors, etc. I want so much to be thin, or at least "normal". Sometimes I feel like I eat, breathe, sleep low carb. Like it's the only thing that matters to me right now.

I don't know, I'm really just venting. I'm thrilled that I've lost weight, thrilled that I look better in my clothes, so why can't I be happy?

Maybe it's the weather. We've had 44 inches of snow so far where I live, and it's only January 21st. Cripes, we've got 3 more months of this crud.

Anyway, thanks for listening. This site is so helpful, I spend all day here, reading old threads, getting hints and inspiration from others. It's truly my safe haven right now.

[Cajunboy47]

Do you take vitamins; B-12, D-3??

Are you eating enough calories to maintain normal brain function?

... ie. at a body weight of 188 and desiring weight loss to 160, your daily caloric intake on a low carb diet should be somewhere around 1800-2000 calories..........

having the blahs is BLAH... Life is too short to lose a day feeling that way, so find the solution as quickly as you can and nip it in the bud... The idea is: There is a solution, find it!

[daisywench]

Do you take vitamins; B-12, D-3??

Are you eating enough calories to maintain normal brain function?

... ie. at a body weight of 188 and desiring weight loss to 160, your daily caloric intake on a low carb diet should be somewhere around 1800-2000 calories..........

having the blahs is BLAH... Life is too short to lose a day feeling that way, so find the solution as quickly as you can and nip it in the bud... The idea is: There is a solution, find it!

Well, I'm not eating anywhere near that amount of calories. I'm not eating much, really. I never considered that affecting my brain function. I admit I don't take the vitamins, I try, but I have such a set routine that it's hard to introduce new things to that. I really should. Now that you mention the vitamins, perhaps that is the key. I feel fine, physically, and I do have energy, just can't get out of this blue mood.

I'm going to go check out the pharmacy at lunch and see what I can find.
thank you!

[kimbar69]

I don't know how you feel about excercise but I for one find when I am feeling blah if I take a short walk (even if it's just around the house a few times) I feel better after about 10 minutes. Leslie Samsone also has a great walking DVD. I know how you feel though I felt like that for years and years. One thing that helped me was quitting smoking. After 4 days I was euphoric. I know it's crazy but it's true, I would have quit 20 years ago if I knew what it was doing to my moods. Don't know if you smoke or not but thought I'd throw that in there just in case. Also if you could find something to laugh about. Look at funny You Tube's or rent a funny movie... anything to get you to laugh. I have been caring for my 6 month old great nephew and wow does that help as well.... nothing like a baby to make me smile. ANyway I don't know if I have helped or harmed but I am here if you want to chat sometime. I know what it's like to be alone and lonely. I am at home all day by myself so it can take a toll. Good luck to you there is hope I promise!!! :wave:

[daisywench]

I don't know how you feel about excercise but I for one find when I am feeling blah if I take a short walk (even if it's just around the house a few times) I feel better after about 10 minutes. Leslie Samsone also has a great walking DVD. I know how you feel though I felt like that for years and years. One thing that helped me was quitting smoking. After 4 days I was euphoric. I know it's crazy but it's true, I would have quit 20 years ago if I knew what it was doing to my moods. Don't know if you smoke or not but thought I'd throw that in there just in case. Also if you could find something to laugh about. Look at funny You Tube's or rent a funny movie... anything to get you to laugh. I have been caring for my 6 month old great nephew and wow does that help as well.... nothing like a baby to make me smile. ANyway I don't know if I have helped or harmed but I am here if you want to chat sometime. I know what it's like to be alone and lonely. I am at home all day by myself so it can take a toll. Good luck to you there is hope I promise!!! :wave:

Thanks, Kimbar. I joined a gym at the end of the year, and I go intermittently. I'm an amateur actor, and I'm in rehearsals 3 nights a week, and work full time, and have an hour commute each way to work. There's just not enough hours in the day, I swear. I joined this particuliar gym because I can come home, feed my cats, change at home, and then go and not have to worry about changing there or showering there. So far I haven't been very much. I really should get there. But it's cold and snowy here, and I come home from work and I do chores, feed the cats, and then just want to put flannels on and veg (the nights I am home..)
I do smoke, and vow to quit as soon as I get rid of these last 20 pounds. I just can't do both right now.

[kimbar69]

wow that's alot packed into a day... i always thought i couldn't quit and truthfully i am surprised i made it this far. my reasons for not was always my weight issues, i finally decided that i have 6 month til i am 40 so no more excuses i want to be healthy in my 40's.

i guess you need to get some vitimans and start eating more then!!! let me know if it helps okay? i am rooting for you!!!

[jschwab]

I take one St., John's Wort per day - I didn't realize how much it was doing for my mood until I ran out. It's nowehere near the dosage most people use, but it helps alot. Also, Vitamin D3 is necessary.

[primerib]

Yep, those dead-of-winter blues. Too little sunlight, too much snow, always does it!

Get more sunlight. I agree with the B complex Vitamins. Don't be afraid to ask for an antidepressant. I should have years ago, and just went on one 1 year ago. What was I waiting for?!? :q: I feel so much better! :thup:

[Kirsteen]

Hey - I feel so sorry for you feeling so blue. You need to eat well, and enjoy your food so it won't feel like a sacrifice. There are food lists in Dr Atkins book, so why not take his advice, and search out a good fish shop, and surf for a few recipe ideas. Omega 3 oil, found in oily fish, is very important for weight loss and keeping lost weight off. Janine's suggestion of St John's Wort is tops.. Also the vit D - I've started to try to get out in the sunshine on good days - well wrapped up, of course.. As well as vit D, I am hoping that the daylight will boost my seratonin levels, which enhances mood and aids weight loss, Every little helps.

You are doing so well with losing weight.. Just ensure that your diet is adequate, because a diet too low in calories is definitely proven to cause depression. Surf on the net about low calories and depression. Here's something I found:

http://www.nationmaster.com/encyclopedia/Very-low-calorie-diet

[donnaliz67]

I've been in a very blue funk for weeks now, and can't seem to get out of it. I wake up every morning determined to be chipper, and upbeat, and by mid AM I wind up back in my old foul mood. I'm losing weight, clothes are hanging on me, but I still feel huge. I want to enjoy the new me, but feel like I've been trying so hard, sacrificing every day, and it just feels like I have so far still to go.

Noone understands. I tell my friends, they say "ditch the diet, it's not making you feel good". I can't. I can't express to anyone how important this is to me, to finally, finally, get rid of the "big girl" in me. I'm tired of ditching photographs, avoiding mirrors, etc. I want so much to be thin, or at least "normal". Sometimes I feel like I eat, breathe, sleep low carb. Like it's the only thing that matters to me right now.

I don't know, I'm really just venting. I'm thrilled that I've lost weight, thrilled that I look better in my clothes, so why can't I be happy?

Maybe it's the weather. We've had 44 inches of snow so far where I live, and it's only January 21st. Cripes, we've got 3 more months of this crud.

Anyway, thanks for listening. This site is so helpful, I spend all day here, reading old threads, getting hints and inspiration from others. It's truly my safe haven right now.

I am SOOOOOO with you right now, it's not even funny. I hate winter - I get like this every year in Jan/Feb. I start to see light at the end of the tunnel in March.

Hang in there with me...Spring is coming...

[mainecyn]

Winter blues. Yup, I've got them and they are recking a royal mess on my life at the moment. It got so bad that I was desperate to feel better. I am taking my welburtrin religiously now,something in the spring and summer months I kind of just coast by, I also went to the dr for another rx to help with anxiety or as the dr says that little voice in my head (and everyones) that cant help but constantly ask or tell yourself neg. thoughts about yourself-you can tell I haven't started it yet by reading my journal. Also, I started taking a vit b and d sup. as well. I was told by members here, at work, and by the dr that vit d can help with the funky feeling. It gets so bad at times the ony way I can feel like I shake it is to take two excedrins every morning, for the energy and "up" feeling, and then again in the afternoon. I feel its cheating, but its caff. and it seems to help. I don't recommend it, but I also have to take something daily for pain and I figure I might as well benifit from the caffine as well.

[kasstout]

I know how u feel as far as the blues-i have been bipolar for 12 years. Though i have found with this diet, my mood swings have improved dramatically, i stil find myself down everyonce in a while. It has currently been snowing here in good ole nebraska for 3 days now, with no signs of stopping(UGGGHHH). I travel for my hospice job so that just makes it way worse. One thing i found that helps me in the winter is hoppin in the tanning bed. The light makes me feel better and i just like to be tan. It makes my stretch marks look better too!.

[Wifezilla]

"Evidence exists that major depression is associated with low vitamin D levels and that depression has increased in the last century as vitamin D levels have surely fallen. Evidence exists that depression is associated with heart disease, hypertension, diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, cancer and low bone mineral density, all illnesses thought to be caused, in part, by vitamin D deficiency. Finally, vitamin D has profound effects on the brain including the neurotransmitters involved in major depression"

Vitamin D Council

[daisywench]

Well, I've been taking my multivitamins, and it's really helping. I'm doing much better. Retail therapy has helped as well. It's so much nicer buying clothes that accentuate the weight loss, and not walking around in clothes that hang off me. I get compliments daily, which is a huge mood enhancer, and helps me stay on track.
Thanks everyone, for the well wishes and suggestions. The vitamins are really working!

[algts]

Good news!

[Kristine]

I just want to chime in with another recommendation for the supplements. You sound like me before I declared war on SAD a few winters ago. I do much better now and have fewer days like that. I take fish oil, B vitamins, magnesium, and about 5000 IU per day of vit D. I bought a liquid brand called D drops. Nice n' easy.

Good luck. :rheart:

[NrgQuest]

Daisywench,

It is awful that people tell you to ditch your diet. That is so unhelpful. I hope you are telling them in a nice way of course, that you are feeling better and that you are still on your diet.

[daisywench]

Daisywench,

It is awful that people tell you to ditch your diet. That is so unhelpful. I hope you are telling them in a nice way of course, that you are feeling better and that you are still on your diet.

I just..just now..tried emailing my girlfriend and was telling her about my success this week and how I need to go shopping...she completely glossed over it and told me about her day. I don't feel like I have any friends that I can talk to about this. My boyfriend listens, but as a man who's never dieted before in his life, he doesn't understand it. My other 2 friends are very heavy, and I feel uncomfortable talking to them about it, as I don't want them to feel badly about themselves. But aren't friends supposed to support you in what makes you happy? My thin friend completely disses atkins whenever she sees me eat anything, and won't talk to me about my diet. I think she feels a bit threatened because I'm getting thin, and she wants to be the thin one in our group. Sigh. I'll never be like her, she's a size 4-6, I'm just not cut out to be that size. I just want to be a comfortable 10, maybe an 8 if I'm lucky. My frame is just large, I'm Scandinavian, I can't help it.
It's tough.

[kimbar69]

Daisywench... I know exactly how you feel. I have noone to talk to about it either. Mu husband is finally on my side and rooting for me (I have spent way too much money on dieting so it's a wonder he ever got there) but I have no friends supporting me either. Truthfully because I have no close friends where I live right now... anyway thats why I love this site we can all help each other get through this!!!

[daisywench]

I know..this site is my lifeline, too. I went nutso yesterday (or was it Wednesday) when I couldn't get on all day because the server was down for maintenance.

[LittleZu]

I know..this site is my lifeline, too. I went nutso yesterday (or was it Wednesday) when I couldn't get on all day because the server was down for maintenance.

:lol: Me too! I try to limit how much I go on and on about my diet to my family and friends- although it is much easier for me as my mom and her BF both started Atkins two weeks ago due to my success. I know I bore people with it though, so I really need this outlet to go on and on abut it in. :lol:

[daisywench]

:lol: Me too! I try to limit how much I go on and on about my diet to my family and friends- although it is much easier for me as my mom and her BF both started Atkins two weeks ago due to my success. I know I bore people with it though, so I really need this outlet to go on and on abut it in. :lol:

Sometimes I feel like I post too much, or start too many threads. It's just that I have questions, or comments, and you folks are the only ones that understand. I feel like people look at my username and say "her again?"
lol.

[LittleZu]

Nah, except maybe in a good way! I don't start a lot of threads but I sure post in a lot. :lol: And that's what the forum is for, right? :D

[NrgQuest]

Daisy if it wasn't for people like you, people like me would just be staring at the computer monitor. I post on other people's threads a lot more than I post my own threads. I also post a lot because, I work at home and right now business is really, really, really slow. So, it's nice to have other people online that post a lot.

[Wifezilla]

I think she feels a bit threatened because I'm getting thin, and she wants to be the thin one in our group
Bingo!
You are changing the friend dynamic.

[kimbar69]

Sometimes I feel like I post too much, or start too many threads. It's just that I have questions, or comments, and you folks are the only ones that understand. I feel like people look at my username and say "her again?"
lol.


I could have said that... I thought maybe I was becoming annoying. New questions everyday though and I don't have time to search for the answers. I take care of a 6month old during the day and my own house/family stuff starts again at 4 when my DD comes home from school. looking forward to track season starting I will have an hour or so of blissful alone time!!! lol

I too have tried to stop talking about my NWOL because I feel like people are "over" my constent new diets... It was a yearly thing for the past 5 years or so...lol I'd always lose about 25lbs and never get any farther and for some reason I'd go back to my old ways... not this time though I see the light.

Have a great day y'all I am off to test myself at the movies... hope nobody gets annoyed that I am crunching on celery... but if they do I hate it for em... :wave:

[NrgQuest]

Kimbar, it's a good thing the whole world isn't like me. I would tell them where I could put that celery stick if my munching on it annoys them.