I Need Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[SweetLoren]

Ive Been Going through a lot............My Boyfriend broke up with me, and ive been cryiiing and depressed for the last 3 months...and i started this new cycle of eating 2 drown my sorowws........:( all the sugary foods!!!!...i eat feel ok 4 a while then depressed I cant take this ne more.........I dont wanna go out I feel worser then when I was huge b4 starting the diet.........this guy was the love of my love.........the first guy I can say that I actually loved........I tried asking him back and told him I would do anything he wants me to (in a good way).........he said he already found another girl...........plz help me.........I mean i also gave up cuz I have a thyroid problem and wasnt loosing any weight at all!!!!!!!!!!!.if i got back on my diet...........will i beably 2 loos like a NORMAL person without a thyroid condition on the right dose of medication!!!!!!!!! I beg U.........Plz Help ME!!!!!!!!!!!!........expecially with my last Q? im cryiing .......plz its very important im onn armour the natural kind.........thank you.......oh yeah how many calories should I eat since i am low thyroid.........this is new 2 me.........I wanted get started as soon as possible ////// if you could tell me how much and wen 2 eat thank you

[Lessara]

I wish I could come over and give you a long hug! You sound so sad and unhappy. What you went through hurts, it really hurts. Its not in your mind. Its real. And oh does it ever hurt! :(
If you can, take sometime and get your hair and nails done. Make sure your friends are a speed dial :p
Try focusing on helping your body. Drink your 2 liters of water, be sure to take your meds when you are suppose to and try to eat at least 3 meals a day. If you skip meals it affects your mind as well as your body. If you are new, there are forums on this board that talk about low thyroid problems. You will learn so much there.
(I wish I knew how to link paths...)
Make a list of lowcarb snacks and stock your home with them. So that even if you don't eat a meal, you can still nurish your body.
You are welcome to write under my thread "Blues" that's what its there for. To share. I'll be thinking of you. Hope your days improve.
We are here for you. :rose: :rose: :rose:

[SweetLoren]

Thank you.....I will try....to....get myself 2gether as best As I can.....THanx 4 the support :) I appreciate your help

[alizacasti]

I just read your story and I know it is now April almost one month after all of your problems began...how is it going now?

Remember that it will take one minute at a time vs. one day at a time to get over this awful relationship...what helped me get over my past relationship was constant prayer. ;)

[SweetLoren]

Thanx Im Not Doing that good.....I still cant go on with my life!! its sooo hard!!....I am gonna start praying thank you 4 ur concern

[John2001]

Hi Loren,

I can relate to you. The hardest thing I've had to deal with in this life has got to be relationships. I know it's hard to believe, but you will get past this. It takes time (sometimes months) to get past the hurt. I know, I know, how many times someone has told you this ..... "you'll get by this"...."you'r young, you'll find somebody else who's better for you"... "plenty of fish in the sea" ..the list goes on and on.

I still have hurt memories in me from 7 years from a past love and am going thru a very stressful time right now. (how I found this thread) Yet another breakup of sorts.
I've had the tendency to stop dating for long periods of time because of this. Usually for years at a time.
Now with LC'ing, somehow I figured it would be different. (weight loss) For me, nothing changed, still failed at this one. Kind-a thought that being overweight had a large part in my past relationships and by being thinner now would make or at least help make, a difference. I too feel worse now, than I did when I was big. Thin people get hurt just as easy as big ones do. We just have more experice at this than them. You'd think I'd be used to this by now!
I am going thru some sort of anixity / depression / high-low energy / painful / sad / confused / destructive path right now. Even I don't know what is going on right now.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you. I can only help, by relating to this topic in life. As you can see, I'm no relationship expert!

If you want to talk more, I'm here 4 U
:there: John

[Lessara]

I too am a heartbreak case which I've learned to deal with over the last three years. Its so hard to care for yourself during this time yet its the most important time to do so.
Please, feel free to talk about your pain and listen to the advice of others about LCing. Caring for yourself is the greatest healing of all. I know its hard, There are days I slip, ok, there are months that I slip, but I keep trying. I hope you two can do the same.
We are all here for each other. Take Care.

[SweetLoren]

Thank you for all your sopport its almost been a year since the break up and, I still feel like wow....I had a great guy slip thorough my fingers 2 me no other guy could compare 2 him....in my eyes he was the only one for me then this happens...:(....I feel my life isnt worth living I have lots of weight 2 loose and I dont know how being hypo !! Its Just 2 much pain in so lil time i dont know how 2 cope with it!!.....Thanx again 4 the support
Love
~*LORENA*~

[Kristine]

Hi Lorena. My sympathy. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, and will probably go through it all over again eventually. Funny how we are all so different, but when it comes to relationships, most of our feelings and vulnerabilities are identical.

Just don't give up. I've had the good fortune of having many good male friends. Even while dumped and depressed, I've never doubted that there are *plenty* of good guys out there - but I never met them until I came out of my shell, got out, and had some fun. I hope you're soon able (if you're not already) to "network" and meet people of the quality I've been lucky to find.

Take it a day at a time. Take care of yourself and listen to your doctors. Low thyroid is treatable. Once they get your meds straight, you'll have no problem losing weight. Either way, be sure to eat food that's good for you. All the sugar makes you more depressed.

Hugs,

[slimchance]

Hang in there Lorena! We're all here for you. Many of us have been through this before. In time it will become less painful, and you may meet someone new and look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. I know that there really isn't anything that anyone can say to make you truly feel better. We can't just erase hurt, it has to gradually wear away in time.

I know that when I went through it, it was all that I could think about and it was beginning to run my life. Daydreams to make myself feel better, hoping everytime the phone rang that it would be that miracle phone call and that everything was a big mistake, hoping that it was all a bad dream or a joke and that someone was going to show up to tell me the joke was on me. I was fortunate that I had a good support system around me because I really started to withdraw. My friends got (forced) me to go out and be around other people and that was the best thing that could've happened. I don't know what would've happened if I had've stayed home all the time by myself to let my mind get the better of me.

Two things that I have realized:

NO ONE is as important to me as I am. I have to love myself first. If I can't do that then I am in big trouble esteem-wise.

If someone doesn't love me for who I am and what I can achieve, then I am better off without them. It is not better to be with someone who doesn't love me, because this does a number on the self-esteem. I deserve more.

Good self-esteem is the most important thing that a person can have. It leads to positive thinking, goal setting, and better overall health.

This guy was not the only good guy out there, you just can't see beyond that right now. What you need to do right now is to focus on yourself. You need to do things for you. A new hairstyle, a new outfit, a manicure, a good workout, they are all positive things that you can do for yourself. You need to feel good about you. Love yourself first.

There are billions of people in this world, so you can't think that this one person who could not see you for the wonderful person that you are is the best of the bunch. There are guys out there that would worship your every move, and you will be free to do the same for them. True love is a two-way street, dwelling on this guy may just lead you to put him on a pedastal of sorts, and not allow you to appreciate the wonderful things that another person may be able to offer you.

Work on yourself...write down what you like about yourself, what you have achieved so far, and what you want to achieve. This may be hard at first, because you are in a very fragile state, but ask others if it helps. Keep this list with you at all times and pull it out whenever you start to feel really down. Work on those goals, and they will become a reality. Achieving something for yourself may be one of the best pick-me-ups.

You have come a long way, and I wish that the road didn't have to be so bumpy for you. Just know that it WILL get better.

Hugs!!

KC :wave:

[SweetLoren]

*HuGz* Thank you Yall !!>......Thank YOu Sooo Much SlimChance, YOu A SwEeTHeArT....Ur Words Just Made Me Realize That Ive Been Puting Other Guys firt Rather Then Myself And Thats Not Right Cuz Im Not Happy , Expecially Since I Do Every THing In My Power 2 Make Them Happy...See In The Beggening My New Way f Life...Atkins Went Well...But Then All Of A Sudden Its The Hardest Thing In The World 4 Me 2 Loose.....First Cuz My Thyroid Its Like I Dont Understand What I can do So I Can Loose Weight What 2 Eat Or Anything It Just Makes Me Soo Depressed I Cry Myself 2 Sleep Sometimes, Then With My Ex It Hit Me Soo Hard That I Still Cant Believe It This 2 Things Are Holding Me Down 4 Life....I Wish I Had Someone That Could Tell Me What 2 Do 4 My Thyroid.As Soon As I Can Start Loosing Again, I'll Feel Like Im Getting My Life Back On Track You Know...But Right Now I Just Feel Hopeless!! Like Im Not Worth Anything Im Very Ugly....i dont Have Any Self Estiem At All!!....But I Appreciate 2 Soo Much....u Were More Supportive Then My Own Friends Were And Really Shed Some Light 4 Me!!....Thank You!!..I Know That My New Thing Is Concentrating On Myself!!...And thats What I Should Do!!....I Need 2 Meet New Ppl And Stuff.....Well Ive Been Talking 2 This Guy and Hes From The Army...And He Says If Everything Goes Well When He Comes 2 See Me....Hes Gonna Make Me His Girl.....Im Like :o ...But Theres Only One Huge Problem!!....Ive Gained Around 50 Pounds Since My Thyroid!!.......and I Need 2 Put That Off My SUmmer Time!!.....I Know What Ur Gonna Say If He Loves Me It Shouldnt Matter....But Its nOt 4 Him Its 4 Myself That Way I Can Gain Some Self Esteim Back!!....Plz Help Me Out On This!!.....It WOuld Be Soo Apreciated!!......i Dont KNow What 2 Do....2 Loose Anymore!!
Thank You Again
Love ~*LORENA*~

[slimchance]

Hey Loren! :wave:

I found a thread for you under general health issues that is devoted specifically to discussions on thyroid problems.

http://forum.lowcarber.org/forumdisplay.php?s=&forumid=76

I'm not sure if that will put a link in this message or not, but if it doesn't work, just go to the main page and scroll down to general health and you should see the link to do with thyroid.

I hope this helps. There will be a lot of things that you will start to realize once you start putting yourself first. You will be a stronger person for it. :)

Give it a look and see if you can't find the answers you're looking for. If not, there are a few nurses around here that could probably help you out with the answers if you asked. They're great! :thup:

Best of luck, and post often!!

KC :roll:

[DDMariana]

Hi SweetLoren...

I read your story and HAD to reply. As most others have said, I've been there...and in fact, my honey just decided Saturday night that our relationship was "too much" for him and we ended the evening with goodbyes instead of goodnights. After almost 5 years of "soulmates" I now have an ex- who lives right down the street. It's going to be tough, it hasn't hit me yet. Like someone else wrote, I'm still waiting for that magic phone call...

Anyhow, what prompted me to write was to remind you of something: SUCCESS is the BEST revenge!!! Whatever you've gained back during this depressing time, forget about it. Your progress has been awesome - catch it before you gain more and feel there's no hope. It's not too bad - I've gained 30 back after a 92 pound loss, and I'm beating myself up. Spent two days shopping for clothes and decided to just give up. It was horrible. So, today - I'm mad as hell and determined to get the rest of this weight off regardless of the hardships, regardless of the health issues....which I also deal with.

One more thing...I have had polycycstic ovarian syndrome for years and years...one of the biggest "symptoms" is obesity. After years of this condition being a hinderence to my weight loss, I finally decided to ignore it and forget that it was there. Believe it or not, once I dismissed it as a constant thought of mine, I was strong enough to work over it. As long as there are no serious medical issues that have to be attended to regularly, just having a "condition" can sometimes make us feel like we are fighting a losing battle. Changing our mindset works wonders. I don't know if this is a possible scenario for you, but I thought I'd share what helped me - maybe you can work with it.

Keep yourself committed to YOU!

D. :wave:

[SweetLoren]

Thank You!!!...Im GOnna Try My Hardest.....The Thing is With Me Being Hypo I DOnt know 2 Loose Weight Or If I Even Can Thats What Im Confused about....And I Drown my sorrows With All THe Wrong FOods...ANd Become Depressed All Over Again and I Hate It Soo Much....All This Hurts Me!!>...Expecially Me Being Hypo....Thank U 4 Ur Suport Mija!!....*huGz*

[kalondra]

SweetLoren :rose:

I read this thread and I just had to reply. As most of the others have said already, I have been there and done that. :agree: But girl, let me tell you, life goes on. As mentioned before, you are the only thing that matters. You should just focus on self-improvement right now. After you got yourself together, you will be straight and then that new guy that you haven't met yet will come into your life. :cheer: But until you are happy with yourself, you probaly will not be happy with anyone. When people see that you are unhappy with yourself, they tend not to want to become involved. But when you display nothing but confidence, you are almost certain to attract people to you. :dazzle: You are still young and there are sooo many other men out there. You have done soooo good in the past with your weight loss and that you should be inspiration enough to know that you can do it. Keep your head up!!! :Party: We are all rooting for you!