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Natrushka
Thu, Mar-07-02, 12:34
This article was featured in CarbSmart Magazine. After reading I wanted to share. Thanks for the heads up, Lisa :)

No One Ever Makes a New Year's Resolution Like This
By Kathleen Lunson, CarbSmart Contributor
Posted 1/18/2002

No one ever makes a new year's resolution like this:

"This year I resolve to find a product which will magically turn me thin, and I resolve to buy it."

No one ever makes a new year's resolution like this, either:

"This year I will find a magic expert to take over my life and by following them exactly I will lose weight."

And yet, isn't that exactly what the media tries to sell us? This morning I heard a television commercial for a national weight loss chain. The final "testimonial" quote from the satisfied customer was "They changed my life without changing the way I live."

Now, think this over with me.

If all I had to do was write a check, if I didn't have to do anything whatsoever to change my behavior except write someone a check (because what after all is "the way I live" except my behavior?), and I would become slim and fit and attractive, what would that be worth? How much would you pay for that?

A thousand dollars? Easily. I would gratefully pay anyone a thousand dollars to make me slim, fit, and attractive without asking anything of me in order to accomplish that. You could probably even get your HMO to pay that if you were medically obese and it worked. Think of the money they would save in medical bills on you in the long run. They'd probably pay ten thousand dollars for that!

And if I were wealthy? Say, a superstar athlete's wife coming off my third pregnancy? Would a hundred grand be too much to spend to keep his eye from wandering on those long road trips?

So, what do you figure the company in these commercials was charging? Forty-nine dollars.

That's it. Forty-nine dollars. Seems like a no-brainer, doesn't it? Why don't we all just do that? Pay them forty-nine dollars, keep our lives just the same, and become slim?

Well, we all know why. Because it doesn't work. Even they don't really mean that they can change our lives without changing anything about the way we live. We have to change how we eat.

I haven't been to any of this company's locations, they may even tell us to participate in exercise, and attend their support groups to achieve the weight loss. That sure sounds like changing the way I live to me.

And can we turn on the radio without hearing a disk jockey advertising some product that melts off the weight while we sleep? We can eat whatever we want, quietly glossing over the fact that we aren't allowed to eat within three hours of bedtime. Are our memories so short that we can't remember those same disk jockeys claiming the same seventeen pounds lost on a different product the year before?

The diet books and infomercials, even for low carb don't help any. Who hasn't seen them advertised as working like a miracle, as capable of just melting the pounds away? As though our obesity was our own Wicked Witch of the West and if someone will just think to throw some water on it, it will be destroyed.

Now the truth is, that copious amounts of water are actually quite helpful in the dieting process. And many products really do help, at least a little, especially for some specific physiological conditions.

But I've got worse stories to tell. At least at that place you have to come up with forty-nine dollars. At least the pills cost money. But there are too many of us who want our weight loss handed to us on a silver platter, given to us for free.

We read the low carb books. They promise easy results. Or, at least, we gloss over the parts where they hint there might be further complications than what the advertising on the back cover promises. And we get started. We buy two hundred dollars worth of meat and cheese and heavy cream and sugar free Jell-O, and we're off.

We're on a roll. Five pounds comes off the first week. We've conquered hunger, we feel we are in control of our destinies. Ketostix testing becomes our most expensive hobby, and we exult in the deep purple. Weight loss is coming to us on a silver platter; finally there is justice in the world.

The next week we lose two pounds. OK, not quite so good, but hey, we're cool, we can take as slower pace.

Doubt creeps in. If we have been expecting a printed, published diet to be a miracle fix then, well, frankly, losing 2 pounds a week doesn't seem so miraculous. When we lose nothing at all the next week, it seems downright unfair.

If we expect to find some formula, some exact combination of what foods and supplements to put in our bodies, then we begin to lose faith that we have yet found it. We go in search of a better miracle.

The trouble is that many of us don't realize that we have to make our own miracles. We're still looking for it "out there." We want our weight loss handed to us on a silver platter; something that can be found if we just shop in the right store or find the right expert.

You can see this on any of the Internet low carb lists. Sometime come late January the questions start coming. Who knows if "Instant Washboard Abs" really works? What does every one think of "Pick a Celebrity's" latest plan? What can make me lose weight faster and easier?

On a good Internet list the answers start coming, too. In come the hordes of suggestions for this supplement or that. Somewhere in the din of replies someone will ask the questioner to post what they've been eating.

I can almost predict the eventual success of the dieter by whether or not, and in what tone they reply to all the responses. Are they most interested in the line of questioning that keeps the solution outside themselves? Or are they willing to look at what work they may need to do?

When I see five, ten, twenty successful long term low carbers give the same advice to the discouraged newcomer, it usually involves changing something about what they eat or how they eat it or how they relate to food on an emotional level in order to succeed. When I see that discouraged newcomer ignore them, then I know what's coming next. In a few days he or she will ask "Has anybody tried taking "Magic-Fat-Be-Gone? How did it work?"

But you know, I have gotten to where I can almost guess ahead of time who's going to go down that path.

Do they ask questions, the answers for which can be found in the dictionary on page four of Protein Power? Would any decent search engine give them a hundred sites on the word search? Do they ask a question that was asked and answered yesterday? Are they still complaining about their stall a month later without having done what the dozen concurring experts advised them? If so, I'm willing to bet that they are looking for someone or something to give their weight loss to them without even paying forty-nine dollars for it! Silver platters, optional?

On the other hand, after years on low carb Internet lists, I have seen another type of newcomer. Here is what their questions sound like. "I read this. I got this and this and this, and I am eating this and this and this. My symptoms are such and such. What am I doing wrong?"

Notice all those verbs in the first person singular? Notice all those personal pronouns? That's a person who is willing to change the way they live in order to change their life. And I'll bet good money that when the advice starts coming in to that person, they will try to follow it.

And if they find they cannot follow it, then they will ask themselves, "What is going on with me that I can't do this?"

That person is going to get slim and fit and attractive. It won't happen overnight. Their weight loss is more likely to be served up on a shovel than a silver platter. Long term, significant weight loss takes digging. And this is one of those situations where you can't pay anyone else to dig for you.

Lizpat
Thu, Mar-07-02, 12:41
Thanks for sharing -- really good article.

I keep saying this, but I am SO glad I found this site-- you are all so helpful !!

agonycat
Thu, Mar-07-02, 12:48
The voice of sanity!

Thanks so much Nat. This is going to go into my link list to point people to :)

:clap:

Natrushka
Thu, Mar-07-02, 12:49
Originally posted by agonycat
This is going to go into my link list to point people to :)


LOL, mine TOO!

N

Princesspp
Thu, Mar-07-02, 12:51
:D
Thank you for the enlightening article. It makes sense ... and is so true.

You're right ... This IS an excellent site, and the people are just as excellent!

Sally

razzle
Thu, Mar-07-02, 13:06
wow, Nat, great find!

This author is nicer than I...I get an urge to toss a brick every time I see an add for those electronic stimulator ab belts on TV. Yeah, if you're 50 pounds overweight, that's all it'll take to get flat abs. :rolleyes:

By the way, Nat, have you ever tried taking Magic-Fat-Be-Gone? mmmhmmm, and how did it work? ;) That one made me laugh aloud, literally!

Natrushka
Thu, Mar-07-02, 13:09
Originally posted by razzle
wow, Nat, great find!

I didn't find it, Lisaf did. I just cut n pasted it and forced you all to read it ;)

Originally posted by razzle
By the way, Nat, have you ever tried taking Magic-Fat-Be-Gone? mmmhmmm, and how did it work? ;) That one made me laugh aloud, literally!

No, but I have a bottle of chitosan at the back of my cupboard that I'd be willing to sell - real cheap! Any takers?

Nat

Karen
Thu, Mar-07-02, 13:53
No, but I have a bottle of chitosan at the back of my cupboard that I'd be willing to sell - real cheap! Any takers?

It would probably make great plant fertilizer!

I'll add this thread to Hot Links!

Karen

ladybugvv
Thu, Mar-07-02, 14:25
Nat, That is a great article! I found myself agreeing with her about everything!

I have even seen many of those same questions/topics on this Board. Have thought and asked a few myself.

Well, this is a whole new world for most of us, especially me, and we are all trying to find our way around.

I'm glad I found this site. This site is soooo helpful and positive. Even when the same questions are asked again and again and again....

Just remember, everyone is a newbie once. ;)

rustpot
Thu, Mar-07-02, 14:59
This was a great thread to read and throw my hat in the air and shout HURRAH!.

I have just returned from a trip to the good ol' US of A. This was my first big trip since I started this WOE and I had all the advice from you guys ringing in my ears.

Eating the Burger and not the Bun. Declining the Home fries and waffles with maple syrup. Eggs and bacon for brekkie. Prime rib,Steak, Lobster with butter for supper. Just had to have New England clam chowder my favorite even though it had potato and clams are fairly high in carbs. Salads with everything. Thats the nice thing about the USA, you get a salad without asking for it, the waiters do not mind you holding everything with a carb in it. Water magically appears by the jugfull. (Failed miserably in my water consumption however)

Returned home and no weight gained maybe 1lb loss in 12 days.

The point of this verbal waffle is that I also was shocked and horrified at the big business that is the diet industry in the US.
I went into Barnes and Noble bookstore and the number of diet books was staggering. (bought the secret to Low carb success by Laura Richard by the way... still reading it... looks good) many offering the instant cure.

The radio was worse. Pills this time. Blockers for this, blockers for that, people just standing by to relieve me of money. People are buying the magic pills, people are buying the books, but people are not getting any slimmer. Some people in the USA are huge. I saw more obese people per square inch of New York and Philadelphia than anywhere else in the world and I have been to most places.

The advertising for some products verge on the criminal. Even with the money back guarantee if not completely satisfied I wanted to leap up and strangle the advertiser. Mrs R, my trusty companion is now used to me ranting at the TV, radio, bookshops, supermarkets and the food pyramid.

Went into a supermarket and bought an Atkins brownie and almond bar not available in the UK. It smelt like rubber. Took one bite and spat it out. Expletive deleted. Mrs R took a bite and clutched her mouth and headed for the restroom. Bought Splenda to bring home and cook with. I hope I do better with that.

It is not easy when all said and done to stay on track. It is not a walk in the park. But the message of this thread is... it really is up to me. You guys cannot make me do it. The advertisers surely can't.

The truth is out there and it comes with a low carb label on it.

ccmarketer
Thu, Mar-07-02, 15:53
Makes you really think about all the people paying the money to change their own life, get a grocery list and change it yourself.

I think until you get to the point where you say YOU will pick this up and change your entire life for it you're not really committed. I hope I'm that strong!

I really liked the pill "bashing" part. I don't like taking pills anyway, I can see taking a multi-vitamin every day while you're in weight loss, but fat-burner this and fat burner that is just a bunch of BS.

Thanks Nat,

Carrie

joanie
Thu, Mar-07-02, 18:29
Anyone know how to get a copy of CarbSmart magazine? Sounds like something I might enjoy.

rustpot
Thu, Mar-07-02, 18:37
http://www.carbsmart.com

Marlaine
Thu, Mar-07-02, 19:21
Thanks for posting this Nat. Great article.

I think the irony of it is that by just settling into LCing as a WOE with a dash of persistance and it happens. Slowly for some of us, but surely. And it gets easier as time goes by.

It really doesn't matter how long it takes anymore. I know this is a WOL. It will be interesting to see how long it takes for the tide to turn.

Marlaine

Atrsy
Thu, Mar-07-02, 22:09
This article was funny to read, but at the same time it was really sad. Some people are so pathetic and desparate to lose weight that they will believe anything.

And Rustpot, you are right. A few years ago, Philadelphia was rated the fattest city in the USA. The mayor put everyone on a diet and it now ranks 3rd or 4th. Philly Cheese Steak sandwiches, Soft pretzels, twinkies--these are some of the Philly favorites. :rolleyes:

But if you thought Philly was fat, you should see the people in the central PA area. These are the Pennsylvania Dutch and they are raised on Pot Pie, corn soup with rivvels, meat and potatoes, shofly pies, etc. Seven sweets and seven sours at every meal!
I know--I was one of them! When I go home, I am amazed at the difference in the weight of the people in just a two hour driving distance.

Please don't get on me if you are also from Central PA. I'm sorry if I stepped on your toes. Just making a point. ;)

Pete
Thu, Mar-07-02, 22:54
The truth is out there and it comes with a low carb label on it.

That was a very good article. From a different point of view Rustspot, no doubt some will view low-carbing with same skepticism applied to any other panacea - I'm just making an observation, not a judgement. The truth may be in low-carbing, but I think it might be better captured by:

Their weight loss is more likely to be served up on a shovel than a silver platter. Long term, significant weight loss takes digging.

Homegirl
Fri, Mar-08-02, 00:30
Excellent article!

She mentioned everything I have thought about as I have read various posts on this forum.

Change, any change has to come from the inside out, not the other way around. No matter what it is.

Thanks to lisaf for finding and Nat for "making" us read it!

Jo-Ann 2
Fri, Mar-08-02, 07:38
A great article, it should be required reading. I guess some of those questions that I asked when I started would have been in the silver plater area. But a funny thing happened, I decided that I could live my life this way, that eating just meat and salads was not enough for me and that I had to find a way of eating that satisfied my body and my mind. I enjoy my coffee so when I tried giving it up it really bothered me so I drink it again now. I don't like breakfast so I don't eat it. I like a salad with my lunch but not with supper so I eat vegetables and meat and I've never been a sweets person so unless it's a special occasion I steer clear of them. I've learned water is important and that vitamins are too. The exercise will come when I'm ready, in the summer I race competively on a sailboat so all I have to find is something I like to do in the winter.
All in all, I've realized that I have begun to dig and now I know what I'm digging for, not the quick fix but for life that will constantly be changing for the better.
Yours Truely Jo-Ann

lisaf
Fri, Mar-08-02, 08:21
Hi all -

I'm glad everyone liked the article (thanks for deciding to post it Nat). I strongly recommend the other articles she has written on the CarbSmart site - insightful, smart and not afraid to say what needs to be said. If you haven't been before, I suggest you go. There are a number of other contributors who are fun to read as well.

Have a great day!

Lisa

Libbyfcr
Fri, Mar-08-02, 12:06
Razzle wrote:
I get an urge to toss a brick every time I see an add for those electronic stimulator ab belts on TV. Yeah, if you're 50 pounds overweight, that's all it'll take to get flat abs.

--------------------

Have you seen the newest commercial with these things? Two slobs sitting on the couch watching TV, wearing them around their abs. Next Scene: Same two slobs ......wearing them on their heads. Very funny commercial. I have no idea what it was trying to sell but it certainly wasn't an ab-belt. LOL

Libby

Elihnig
Tue, Dec-31-02, 05:12
It's the right time of year for this article again!

Enjoy!

Beth

DoubleD
Tue, Dec-31-02, 08:01
Very good article! I have been suffering from an increased "frustration" level as I read alot of posts lately. I have been trying to hold that back... as everyone deserves respect and courtesy... but sometimes I just have to walk away from the thread... because what I really want to say is ...

"PLEASE READ THE PLAN BOOK THAT YOU ARE FOLLOWING!" It's obvious you have not done any homework and you want us to wave our magic wands and do it for you (no work on your part!).

"WHY DID YOU ASK THE QUESTION IF YOU ARE GOING TO REPEATEDLY DENY THE NEED OR THE SUGGESTIONS?"
This one drives me crazy. "gee I am eating five low carb bars a day and not losing - but that is NOT the problem!" LOL!

Okay... I needed to say that ... not directed at anyone in particular - just some pent up frustration spilling out! LOL!

I need to copy this article and keep it handy. :)

suzanib
Tue, Dec-31-02, 08:29
Hi,
Great posts....

Here's an interesting article from the Toronto Star:
http://www.thestar.com/NASApp/cs/ContentServer?pagename=thestar/Layout/Article_Type1&c=Article&cid=1035775666267&call_page=TS_News&call_pageid=968332188492&call_pagepath=News/News

In short, Thane Direct, the makers of that stupid belt thingee...has been sued by the Canadian Competiton Bureau. They have to return the money to anyone who bought one - since the product is a piece of garbage....The US FTC has sued them too.

Thank goodness there's some sanity out there eh!

liz175
Tue, Dec-31-02, 09:26
Great article! I get so frustrated by the posters who think they should lose 50 pounds in two months. I figure it is going to take me at least another two years to get to my goal weight -- the first 50 pounds took almost six months and my rate of loss will certainly slow down. I've noticed that the people who join the board with unrealistic attitudes are also the ones who disappear after a few weeks. They're just not ready to take control of their lives yet -- instead they are looking for a miracle to take control for them.

Lisa N
Tue, Dec-31-02, 09:45
Excellent article!

It's taken me 19 months to lose 75 pounds with a lot of ups and downs along the way and a great deal of being willing to change things on my part. I still have 45 pounds to go to get to my goal and I would be thrilled to make it by the end of this year, but don't believe that's entirely realistic. I'd be happy (and have set this as my goal for 2003) to be down another 30 pounds by next Christmas (that's a little over 1/2 pound per week) and perhaps hit my goal by summer of 2004. That may seen like incredibly slow weight loss to some, but as long as the scale keeps moving downward, who cares how long it takes me? I'm eating well and feeling great while I lose! We live in a society that has been weaned on instant gratification (what do you mean I can't lose 50 lbs. in 2 months??? Product X says it can achieve that for me!) along with a sad lack of personal accountability (I give you the fast food chain lawsuits as an example). Bottom line is that nobody can motivate me to do this but me and nobody can make it happen but me. I have to do the grunt work myself and I alone am accountable for the results that I get.
Can we make this article a sticky? I think it's a great read for any low carber! :thup:

DDMariana
Tue, Dec-31-02, 10:53
I'm still LOL about the abtronic thingee commercial... :D :D

You don't know how tempted I was to actually write the check for that thing. Now when I look at how many rolls of fat I expected that little buzz to get through, it makes me laugh at how I was willing to do ANYTHING!! Even electrocute my stomach and expect it to get flat!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

The alternative was a good one for me...thanks for the article.

:wave:

BrewWa
Tue, Dec-31-02, 11:34
Beth,

Thanks for bringing this thread back. Good reading!

Happy New Year!

BrewWa

Lisa N
Tue, Dec-31-02, 13:48
LOL...I wasn't even tempted with that abtronic thing...it just looked like an expensive torture device to me. Somehow the thought of shocking my abs into submission just didn't sound like something I'd want to do. :daze:

Kristine
Fri, Jan-03-03, 09:59
Great article. :thup: :thup:

Sometimes, it's really frustrating when you see someone who you know is looking for a quick fix. It's really hard to word replies because no one wants to be told that. I 'made' one person leave this forum a few months ago, because she didn't like having it suggested that her expectations were totally unrealistic. :lol:

--
Kristine, sporting a Nerf Cluestick. :bash:

lperk002
Fri, Jan-03-03, 12:52
DoubleD wrote:
Very good article! I have been suffering from an increased "frustration" level as I read alot of posts lately. I have been trying to hold that back... as everyone deserves respect and courtesy... but sometimes I just have to walk away from the thread... because what I really want to say is ...

"PLEASE READ THE PLAN BOOK THAT YOU ARE FOLLOWING!" It's obvious you have not done any homework and you want us to wave our magic wands and do it for you (no work on your part!).

Just today, I had to abandon the Newbie's question section for that very reason... I was checking everyone profile to see if they had read... and getting really concerned with people who haven't read the book advising other people that haven't read the book! Arghh!

I've only been LC-ing since 9/2002... so I'm not expert... and my head is especially swimming today because I have been rereading DANDR and I'm noticing so many contradictions in suggested menus and what is listed in the Rules of Induction.

Hugs to all our patient mentors and members here who take the time to gently say "READ THE BOOK!"

Suz
Sat, Jan-04-03, 12:34
Thanks for listing this thread again. I started LCing in November, so I didn't see this when it was originally(sp?) posted. It's some great advice and some common sense for LCing.

Suz

KellyG5
Wed, Jan-22-03, 08:21
Thanks for bringing this thread back to life! It really makes you think if you are ready to make a commited change in your life, or are you just "wishing" the weight to be gone.

m7griffin
Sat, Apr-10-04, 22:19
Personal pronouns are the essence of saving yourself because they convey that the person has identified whose problem something is. “Whose problem is it” is confusing to people that are in denial. Take a four year old riding a bike in the middle of the street. Is this the child’s problem? If you approach it on that basis, there will be resistance and perhaps a battle of wills. No, the problem is the attendant (parent’s) problem. They are the one worried about the prospect of injury not the child. When approaching the child with “I am worried that you will get hurt…”, like magic, the child usually complies because we have communicated with honesty. Same with us, when we can say something like “my weight is a sad representation of me”, the honesty triggers something that touches us mentally. After a learning process, I was then able to be honest with ME. I think that losing weight for anyone else doesn’t seem to have a sound of truth.

Martin

Karen
Mon, Jan-03-05, 11:44
Tis the right time of year to bump this up. :)

Karen

Rachelle
Mon, Jan-03-05, 14:40
Wow.. great motivational article.. i was in search of some motivation for the New Year's Resolutions that I've made for myself.. this just helped cement a few thoughts :)

RobinDBois
Sun, May-20-07, 15:33
So many questions.

Sorry to see that you are so confused.

Relatively simple in my world. I've taken control of my destiny.

Good luck

ChÉ