venting about my mother- why does this bother me?

[Enomarb]

My mother has been very negative about my WOL but very interested (VERY) in my weight loss. She has even said things like " I know this is not a diet, but you can stop now... you are thin enough". She has watched me and questioned everything I eat for almost 4 years now- I am tired of it. Now she is visiting and saying "I'm going to eat just like you and look just like you." She has NEVER had a weight problem and put me on a diet when I was in 7th grade because I weighed the same as her. SHe is very competetive with me about everything. Now she is EATING ALL OF MY FOOD! She took my leftover steak (I cooked extra jsut for my lunches) and the salad I had all cut-up and had that for her lunch- now there is none for me for tomorrow! I usually just let this all go over my head but she is driving me nuts today!
Anyone like this in your life?

[greenshamr]

Yup...my mom is exactly the same way in regards to being competitive. Everything I have ever done, she has had to top. Its soo annoying and she is definitely a part of my poor body image. Her idea of a diet is eating a snickers and a pepsi all day long...she put me on a diet when I was very young also and had a habit of announcing it to everyone!

Hang in there and just close your eyes, count to 10 and click your ruby slippers to make her go away! ha!

[shy__anne]

You know my middle sister lost a lot of weight and was thinner than she had ever been. She worked her butt off to do it and everyone gave her crap about it, including my mom. They were worried she was anorexic. Later, my mom worked hard to lose weight and when she did, my older sister kept saying the same things to my mom. Finally my mom understood how my middle sister felt and appologized. I had to tell several people in my family that there is nothing wrong with seeing cheek bones and collar bones in a person. There is nothing wrong with being thin. There is nothing wrong with eating healthy. It doesn't mean you are "obsessed" "selfish" "vain" or any of those things. I sometimes think people just don't think before they say things. Thats my experience.

[Legeon]

She took my leftover steak (I cooked extra jsut for my lunches) and the salad I had all cut-up and had that for her lunch- now there is none for me for tomorrow! I usually just let this all go over my head but she is driving me nuts today!

It probably bothers you because she's treating you like crap. Being related to someone doesn't give them the right to do that. Don't put up with it, the more she gets away with the worse it'll be.

[ppuffy3859]

What a coincidence! I just wrote about my mother in my journal this weekend. She was here helping me out with my toddler for a couple of weeks, and bagged on my diet the whole time, and pretended to follow the plan, but really not at all, and ate chocolate ice cream in front of me. Then she gets home and calls me to announce that she lost seven pounds and was so thrilled. Whaaatever! My mother makes me crazy, and I'll never understand her. I can only pray that my daughter does not feel the same about me when she grows up! In any event, just keep following your own wisdom, doing what you know is right for you. We may never understand why our mothers are the way they are, but at least we're free to live our own lives now! Take care :)

[deniselisa]

MOMS!! I don't know about you all, but I was raised if you did tell your mother how you feel it was TOTAL disrespect (I know it isn't, but the DRAMA!). I feel you... just know it isn't going to be forever, and then feel for whoever is closest in living quarters on a permanent basis (I always appreciate my dad; and she complains about him constantly!). -Denise

[Enomarb]

well when she is out of my house it is better- and I just won't talk to her about it. My body- my food- my life.
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