Are You Complacent?????

[skippie]

I went to see my doc this morning about a sinus infection. He asked how I was doing with my weight loss. I was honest and said I had gained last year about 10 lbs admitting that I hadn't lost anything for a year.

My doc is understanding and patient with me. He offered some suggetions starting with....

1.Have you gotten Complacent??? My reply was I don't think so.
Moving right along to the set of questions.....
2.Are you eating 100% on plan?
3.Are continuing to exercise the same as you did when you started?

Maybe not as much but I'm close was my answer.

He then offered some more info per a study he just recieved info on.
Persons who are very overweight that have added 100 calories back into their diet and not exercising as when they started will gain 10-12 lbs per year.

Next question did you do this?
Well not an extra 100 cal every day, but I guess I've added back a few extra treats here and there. Hey I'm honest. :agree:

So once again he asked do you think you have gotten Complacent?
My honest answer YES. :tears: As I sat there crying.

After a hug from my doc he went on.....
Now his advise take a step back and really look at what I've changed to get where I am. Yes I've changed a lot. Nice pat on the back here.

Now are you willing to really start over and do what you did when you started? Now reality has set in and I know deep down I'm not being honest with myself thinking I had started this year on plan.

He really is a wonderful person and honest and caring. He made sure not to play down what I've accomplished so far. But wanted me to face the facts before it got out of hand again.

I have gotten complacent with my eating and exercise.
I'm the only one that can change that. The facts are all right there staring me in the face.

Just thought I share this all my friends here.
Is it time for you to ask yourself the same question?

Are You Complacent?

If you are you aren't alone.
Just be honest with yourself.
Be proud of what you've accompolished.
And get back at it. :thup:

[MissScruff]

Just thought I share this all my friends here.
Is it time for you to ask yourself the same question?

Are You Complacent?

If you are you aren't alone.
Just be honest with yourself.
Be proud of what you've accompolished.
And get back at it. :thup:
Unfortunately I have to answer YES! But, I also have a question? How does one get out of this mind set? I am at a loss! I have known for a few months that I wasn't doing as I should have done! Yet, I continued on! After all, I had lost 160 pounds...well I have gained ten back, but look at what I accomplished! That last statement has been my excuse...had to type it here in order for it to feel real I guess. But, I think that is where I have gone wrong! So, I need to stop dwelling on what I have already done and focus on what still needs to be accomplished! Thanks Skippy for helping me to see where I am going wrong! It was painful to come back here feeling like a failure because food had once again taken control of me. Now, I am ready to take control back! It's really going to be hard to give up the bread...the sugar and stuff won't be a problem since it makes me feel sick anyhow.

[Bat Spit]

I'm certainly not going to say being complacent is a good thing, but don't beat yourselves up about it too much.

We here in the TDC have a VERY long road. If we have to stop for a rest break now and then, I think that can be mentally healthy, as long as we realize what we're doing and have a plan for getting started again.

[Dorr185]

I worry about this sometimes, especially when I hit certain milestones. I actually had to drop my goal weight from 250 to 180, because 250 started to look easy, and I wasn't pushing myself as hard as I could.

[SunnyCarol]

Sounds like one fantastic doctor. I have one of those, too. Part of what keeps me from becoming complacent is because he and his nurse/wife are counting on me to make it to goal with their help. They are both my cheerleaders.

Sunny!

[Greenwitch]

Wow. Simply wow. You really gave me somethign to think about. I easily slide into thinking "I've got this licked". I think I'll set a reminder on my PC to pop up every 3 weeks askign me that very question. THANK YOU!

[skippie]

I have to be honest I don't know how to "NOT" become complacement.
I just wanted to offer to you what I had just discovered in myself, that I had.
You know...hope you learn from my mistakes kinda thing.

I'm not one to dwell on the past. But it hits home to think I did waste a year. But as my dear friend NYC Judy pointed out I've learned a lot and should be well ahead of the game once I get to goal. I've done a lot of maintaining already. :idea:

How do you get back on plan. You know have the enthusiam and drive that you had when you started. I'm not sure. I'm sure it will have to be a personal drive. And everyone will have to find in themselves to get started. Once you start just ask for what ever we might be able to do help you stay there.

The best part is I know everyone here will offer any kind of support they can.

But I do know staying on the weekly weigh in, and being honest about what I eat and exercise will help. So I need to start logging my meals again in my journal. And make some sort of exercise plan. So I checked into a gym this afternoon, and tomorrow I'll check at the YMCA for their plans. My goal is to have something drawn up by the end of the week sooner if I can. :agree:

Thanks Everyone. :bhug:

[~Nora~]

Yes. I've been coasting at this weight for awhile now. Not really gaining or losing, just maintaining.

I need to crack the whip on myself. :nono:

[southbel]

I can answer a big YES to this. I have been hovering around this weight for a good long while, probably a year now. Of course, as the warm weather starts approaching, I start getting that bathing suit image popping into my head and that kick starts my motivation. Well, I just drew the line in the sand for me and made my mind up that I was going to make this happen already!

I was definitely complacent. I wish that I knew the secret to remotivation because when you are a TDCer it really is a long road, but I just don't know the answer. For me, it is the thought of another year looking terrible in a swimsuit, especially since I live at the beach! I would suggest finding a motivational element, kind of like they do on the show Biggest Loser and keep working towards that and bring it out whenever you think you are getting complacent!

[FatFreeMe]

Skippie, This is a Great Thread! I haven't yet become complacent, as I am just getting started, but I could sure see myself feeling like I have a handle on stuff and getting complacent down the road. Also, you are BLESSED to have such a great doctor!

[diemde]

I can truthfully say I am not complacent... of course falling off the wagon for a year or so will do that. :p

Those of us in the TDC have a double edged sword. We take such a long time to get to goal that this truly does become a way of life for us, which is a good thing! But, that length of time is really what makes it easy to relax and let our guard down.

The only way I know of to get out of that mindset is to become dissatisfied with where we are. It will take getting out of our comfort zone to get to goal and that is always hard to do.

[gweny70]

Great thread and great post Skippie! Thanks for sharing and getting us all thinking!! That thought process and self evaluation I think will help us in our quest to NOT get or stay (if we're already there) complacent!!

THANKS!!

[MizKitty]

I'm living proof of his statistics. Not this time around, but in my previous weight loss efforts.

Now I know I'll probably get hollered at and lectured, but that is why I am choosing to lose the weight this time WITHOUT exercise, and with an eating plan I feel like I can do for life.

I hate exercise and i am never going to change my mind about that, and I know that it's not something I will do for the rest of my life. So to exercise the weight off now knowing the day will come when I will stop the exercise, and the weight will come back...I'm not willing to go down that road again.

I've dieted and exercised this weight off twice before. 150 pounds twice before. That's 300 pounds altogether. On low fat/low calorie plans with lots of exercise. Hated every minute of it. That's why when people say "you get used to it, you will come to love it or look forward to it" - I'm glad that happened for them, wish it would for me, but it didn't,doesn't,isn't going to. I'm basing that on experience.

I do try to be more active, as my weight comes down I am able to choose more activities and do them comfortably and with more enjoyment than I could before.

[SRabbit]

Until the end of December, I would definitely say I was complacent, otherwise I wouldn't have needed to lose weight (since I had lost 85# 3 years ago and gained it back slowly and complacently!)

Now I am excited and challenged, and I don't want to ever become complacent again. I post here everyday (probably drive people crazy!!), celebrate my little victories as well as my bigger ones, look at myself in the mirror and make note of the fact that my body really is changing, and keep myself motivated.

Being present and involved in what I'm doing as my defense against getting complacent---I know I have to do this to succeed this time...

Such a good thread-----thanks for sharing with us!!

[saucywench]

What a great thread...I have to admit I too have become complacent...Since December I have been happy to cruise along playing at the LC life style...gaining a few pounds because of cheats then losing them..back and forth..back and forth..I dont know how to get out of this mind set except I have started taking one day at a time....If I can stay on plan and be upbeat for one day then I can do the same the next one!!