I really want it to work this time.

[WildCherry]

I woke up this morning thinking that i'd start my diet today. Today was the day. But I had to head out the door in a hurry, and ended up eating all day at my moms because of the good food. :lol: I was horrible. I really want this to work out so badly that I cried today. I looked at an old picture of me, I know i'll never get that small again, but damn why in the world would I do this to myself?I think that I want it all to happen right away. And if it doesn't I get discouraged, and everything seems so far away. I'm such a dork when it comes to that. Nothing is never handed to you, you have to work hard at it. So, tonight I made all my meals for tomorrow,and stuck it in the fridge,and posted a note on the fridge that said.."Do not eat the CARBS today fattie"LoL They gota laugh out of that one! :lol: Anyway...I badly want this to work this time.....Any suggestions?Help?Something?

[Kisal]

All I can offer is encouragement. :there: You did the right thing by preparing food in advance. That's a strong and positive sign that you really do want to succeed at this. With that kind of attitude, you will succeed!

I think most of us have learned from experience that we do best if there's always something in the fridge we can just grab and eat when we need it. One of my lifesavers has been always keeping a big bowl of hard-boiled eggs in the fridge, peeled and ready to eat.

Have you checked out the Kitchen area of this site? There are lots of yummy recipes for just about any kind of food your heart might desire. Not all are suitable for Induction, of course, but many are. You can find the Kitchen here:

http://forum.lowcarber.org/forumdisplay.php?f=2

Be sure to check out the Kitchen Talk forum, too, for some great information. It's here:

http://forum.lowcarber.org/forumdisplay.php?f=42

Another web site with great recipes is here:

http://www.genaw.com/lowcarb/index.html

HTH! I hope you have a better day tomorrow! :wave:

[Greenwitch]

I love the note on the fridge! I put one on there that says "STOP. Think. Is it worth it?" I knowwhat you mean about mom food,too. My mom's an amazing cook and there are always home made "everythings" around the house.

For me, while I KNOW we want results, I'm trying not to set weight expectations now. I'm just focusing on feeling good and being able to move around without pain,etc. I already feel amazing after just a small loss. I knwo the weight will come off. I'm an impatient person and want my weight off TODAY and so I need to not think like that. It came on over a period of time, so it'll come off. A year will go by ANYWAY, so why not make lose some weight along the way, is the way I'm trying to focus.

Hang in there! Talk it out. Cry it out. Walk it out. Whatever you have to do to shake off those negative feelings and one thing, REMEMBER that feeling. You're at your "before" stage..now just work towards that after.

[joylorene]

Just take it one day at a time - tell yourself you can do it today then repeat the next day. I find that helped keep me going because looking too far out left me depressed.

[gridcan28]

As stated by previous posters, all you can do is take it one day at a time. I totally understand about wanting it now and not appreciating what you have in the present. Sometimes it's really difficult to see how far you've come; you can only see what you have left! This is definitely something I have had to work on in order to continue with my weight loss journey. Some days it's all you can do just to get through the cravings and the stress and the negative thoughts. When I find myself going to that place in my mind where I'm not good enough or strong enough or deserving enough, I do my best to acknowledge that I have those thoughts, then talk to myself to get back to reality. The fact that you want to change yourself makes you good enough! Just because you don't always do it the right way doesn't mean that your not doing the right thing. None of us can be perfect all the time. We just have to do our best to do the best we can for the time being. There are days when I slip, days when I have the negativity (weeks, even!). Just know that it will pass, and you will still be on your way. Don't give up! Even if you slip, you're still closer to your goal than if you never started at all. Good luck with your journey. Everything will work itself out.

[Dogbert199]

To quote Rocky Balboa on life (or dieting): It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit, it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much can you take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

[BaronE]

Pre planning, cooking ahead, being prepared.. That would be my suggestions..

[karrier]

You have the right idea about planning what you eat.

You know the old saying "if you fail to plan you plan to fail"

I find I don't go off plan if I have my menu planned beforehand.

You can do this if you get your head around it.

good luck.... or should I say good planning :agree:

[Charran]

I remember way back in my journal when I was lacking in motivation, I started doing a Just for Today list. I found looking at the whole picture much too intimidating and depressing, however, I felt like I COULD get through one day, so what I would do is this...Everyday I would write out my goals to get me through only that one day. I would say things like...Just for today I will drink __oz of water. Just for today, I will exercise for ___minutes and just keep going with whatever I thought I needed for that one day to get me through. This made it seem better in my mind and got me through lots of rough spots until I got my motivation back!

[Dogbert199]

I'm on Day Five after restarting more times than I care to count.

We're all in a fight here, and it's to protect and secure our lives from the health events that can occur otherwise.

[diemde]

I promise, it does get easier! For me the key is to make sure I buy the right groceries at the store. If that junk never comes into the house I can't eat it.

Having some quick & easy foods already prepared and in the fridge really helps when you are in a hurry... like hard boiled eggs. After you make it through induction, then there are more choices available which makes it easier to eat on the run.

[bubbasbabe]

I know that this is the n'th time I have restarted, but it's starting to stick. what works (is working) for me is take it one meal at a time. one day was too dauting. and i made the change slowly. switching to whole grain eng muffins to no muffin at all. slow and steady wins. deep breath, tomorrow really is another day :)

[2bfreemari]

Oh sweetie, stop calling yourself names. You need to build yourself up. You are so much more then fattie. Get that right out of your mind because it's just self-depreciating and will make you feel more worthless.

You have to love you and believe you are worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT, worth being thin. You deserve it. Please replace that sign with one that says "You can pass by the carbs today beautiful." Tell yourself only good, positive things and you will come to believe them.

Part of my low carb WOE includes AdvantEdge Low carb shakes. I buy them at SAMS and whenever I'm running out of the house, don't have time to eat or can't think of anything that appeals to me that shake is there. They are healthier then the protein bars, lower in sugar and high in protein.
Just a thought
in case you are caught
running out to moms again.

Marie
No longer feeding the belly god

[j13]

Oh sweetie, stop calling yourself names. You need to build yourself up. You are so much more then fattie. Get that right out of your mind because it's just self-depreciating and will make you feel more worthless.

You have to love you and believe you are worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT, worth being thin.

I really agree with this. A lot of people - myself included - want to feel bad about themselves for whatever reason. I refer to it now as giving myself "the luxury of feeling bad." I've recognized a pattern of behavior where I'll put myself in a situation where I can't do anything *but* fail, then get down on myself. Your note reinforces your negative view of yourself. What does a fattie do? They eat uncontrollably. By putting that in your mindset - that that's who you are - you give yourself that out. You're saying, "this is who I am," and if that's who you are, then you will act the way that that person is supposed to act.

Your note needs to read, "I can make a good choice this time." You ARE capable. You are a fully actualized human being. No one forces your decisions. You are only a fattie - and someone who acts like a fattie - if you choose to be. If you regularly tell yourself that that's what you are, then that will be the way you act. Even if you're just saying it as a little joke. You wouldn't make the joke if you didn't think there was some truth to it. It wouldn't occur to you to say (or write) it.

Reading your post, it really struck me that you did not approach it correctly. First, you did not plan. Doing this without a plan only comes with experience - it's learning a new way of eating that *does not* come naturally if you've spent your life eating the typical American diet.

Second, you made excuses for bad behavior. You ate because you went to your mom's house and her food's delicious? Seriously, think about that. That leaves you with the only choice of failing every time you see your mother. You ate when you went there because you *CHOSE* to eat while you were there. There is never, ever, anywhere in the civilized world, a reason that you *have* to eat badly. You CHOSE to eat badly. And unless you stop seeing your mother for the rest of your life, you're going to need to learn to eat well, even when you see her. The same thing goes for when you have emotional or time issues - you can't succeed at this and go off plan just because you're depressed or because you "don't have time." That's what life is. Life is stress and time issues and going to your mother's house. You will not succeed in eating well if you let those kinds of things stop you, nor will you succeed if you create self-fulfilling prophecies for what you do by creating negative names for what and who you are.

Good luck-

-j.