mind over matter...

[lcgroom2b]

I believe that our mental status is to blame for our ultimate success or failure. The way we think and feel directly effects our bodies and our ability to control them. Is it possible that some people simply can't achieve the body they want, dew to their emotional state?

I am 19 years old and have an 18 month old daughter who lives with her mother and grandparents. My fiancee has a dysfunctional family, with a mentally handicapped mother and sister, and an abusive father. And I'm planning a wedding for the end of august.

I have a low paying, part-time job and no high school diploma. I'm looking for a full-time job and to Finnish my GED. I'm hoping to get an apartment in a near by city and start some form of college. I might add that I haven't smoked in a month....

My point behind this is, I find myself struggling to succeed due to my life's current status...My weight loss has slowed down greatly because I'm doing it worse than wrong. I'm eating one meal a day (because of time and hunger, I'm not Hungary) and that one meal is something like, a double cheeseburger and a med fry at MC Donald's ( $2.00)

How does one get past emotion to succeed? I want a better life, but it seems that will only come when I already have it. Like money, you have to have it to make it.

If anyone has helpful words, or maybe a similar situation...let me know!!

Thanks, Ty

[Mousesmom]

Ty, you are quite right that mental status plays a big role in success/failure. You have a lot of issues in your life to deal with and a daughter who needs you to be there for her.

You also have a lot going for you - you're young, male and really want to make a change in your life.

I know you can do this. Now YOU have to believe it. If I remember correctly your fiancee is a member here too - the support from her will really help you.

It sounds like you need to start taking care of yourself and eating more regularly and eating real food instead of McCrap. I know it's cheap and easy but you deserve better.

Take care of yourself and remember we're here for you!

Julie

[lcgroom2b]

Thanks, I do believe! And yes, I do get support from my fiancee...I feel like she really stugles too!!! we're trying to get her and my daughter out of her house right now so...a diet isn't working for her (her choices are limited to bread, carbs, or frozen fried things...eww)

I understand full and well what has to be done in most aspects of my life...it's getting them done and keeping it up thats hard...

My daughter comes first of course...but I don't want to stay fat and unhealthy forever...money is something everyone deals with, but I don't think finance is the major factor in my despressing state. It's my weight stugle....I want to feel good!!!

anywho, I'm going to start writing in my journal page again...

thanks again to everyone, Ty

[PS Diva]

Don't put off being happy until you get all the things you want! It will never come if you wait, because you will never get everything you want.

You have a daughter in your life to love? That's wonderful! You have fiance to love and to be loved by? That is something that some people never find. You have succeeded in quitting smoking? That is very impressive!

I am not saying that you shouldn't have goals or desires for better things. All I am saying is you need to learn to appreciate where you are right now too! Life is a journey, so you have to learn to enjoy the trip...

[lcgroom2b]

lol...I always hated to trip part...

thanks, Ty

[tmatrocks]

Keep on the plan, and if you are like me, each and every compliment you get from a loved one will be the inspiration you need to get thru the day, the next hurdle, past those french fries and tortillas (or whatever).

You feel good at 283?

Man - just wait until you get to 250...240...230...wow!

[cs_carver]

Carbs.

get off the fries. Eat the burger without the bun.

Agreed with your general point, but brains run on what we put into them. I have found it infinitely easier to maintain a positive point of view when I don't put crap into the system to start with.

It's like asking an alcoholic to change his or her life while still drinking. Possible, but not the way to bet.

Brains are cells that run on the energy we give them. You'd probably be better off eating straight mayo with a daily fried egg, and that's cheaper still.

Good luck.

[lcgroom2b]

mayo it is, lol....thanks

I'm doing much better today, I got out and played some hoops with my fiancee so...I'm feeling much better.

I have a terrible headache though...thats probably do to the recent re-induction...

[karrier]

I believe that mental status is to blame for our ultimate success or failure, however we control it unless we are clinically depressed.
You could wake up every morning depressen and say "nothings going to change so why should I bother" to do this or that. And you know what???
Nothing will change.

But if you wake up and decide you are going to make some wise choices and say "I may not be perfect but I can get better" "I have already made a wise choice by doing what I need to do" you will see the progress.

Do not dismiss the little victories. Celebrate them. Keep track of them and look back when you feel down.

This is how I live and it has made me a happier person.

I hope you are feeling better today.

[nikeb00]

I know excactly how you feel!!!!! I've been LCing since May 2006, everything was going great!!!! Then the holidays hit, I was let go from my job, put back on a few pounds, stressed about planning my Sept. wedding with a lot less money and I'm still sixty pounds from goal!!!! I know we can both do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You just have to keep your head up. I did reastart my diet last week, so far I've only lost what I put back on, but atleast its a start. As far as a place just look in the paper everyday, call on some even if you think they are to pricy sometimes they will have a differant place that is ceaper and avalible, just not avertised yet. There will be let downs but if keep going (same for the WOL) you will get there. As far as your GED, best of luck to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sure I'll see you soon!!!!!!!!!!!

[lcgroom2b]

thanks for all the support, I feel much better today!!! I got up and got going like I should, without feeling stiff and dead to the world...

I'm training today so...wish me luck!

[Kristine]

Lots of luck! :)

You have my empathy. I know it's tough when you're starting out. I remember having a nearly maxed out credit card, praying at the checkout counter of the discount store that my ramen noodles, bread and peanut butter would go through. Been there, done that, would have eaten the T-shirt if I could. ;)

Remember that to be the best 'you' you can be, you need to fuel yourself properly. You can't give away what you don't have. Take care of your body, and it will have a huge positive effect on everything else in your life. :)

[3shewolf8]

You should just start small. Look in the mirror tomorrow morning and say to yourself "today, I will succeed", the power of positive thinking is an amazing thing. I truly believe in it. You can choose your attitude. It sounds corny, but it works. How about when you go to Mcdonalds, instead of fries and a double burger, you get two double burgers, and toss the buns! Same price, better food (better than fries anyway) and still very, very close to plan! You are so on the right track, stand up and be proud of what you have now, and what you have done, and keep telling yourself how you WILL succeed. I do it myself EVERYDAY. It's funny, because I look at myself in the mirror all the time and tell myself, outloud even, how great I look, and what a super job I am doing. If I can't hear it somewhere else, I sure as heck will tell myself! I get compliments in the form of whistles, and "hey baby's" but what I would really like are compliments from the man who is closeset to me, my husband. Since I don't get many from him, I give them to myself. And IT WORKS! Keep your head up, we are all pulling for you.

[bull999999]

Best of luck to you! Someday, you'll be able to look back and laugh at all the crap that you had to go through.

[rachelratz]

If you stay with McDonalds, cut up the burgers and throw it in a salad. They have salads there. You have that instead of the fries It will get you used to eating salads. Gradually make them yourself. I like everything in my salads. Eat a chicken salad one day, tuna salad the next, turkey salad, etc. At least one big salad a day for lunch or all day if you want. That's all. Good luck!

[elpasopop]

I have fought my weight since I was your age also. Here is a statement that I think you might appreciate. An influential male in my life told me this, and it has carried me through many situations in life where I was struggling.

"You don't have to like it, you just have to do it."

Feelings are just feelings. Taking action will cause those feelings to change or disappear. If I approach decisions with honesty and willingness to let go of control, I almost always make the correct decision. Action first, results follow.