Who gave you the right?

[sublime]

Ever since I got fat, I've tried to be invisible. I'm sure many of you know what I mean. I've tried to avoid the disgusted stares, the comments behind my back, the feelings of disgust with myself, or that everybody else is right. I'm a disgusting fat cow not worthy of friends, love, kindness. Then I thought, what gives you the right? Who gave you permission to judge me? Who said you get to decide if I'm worthy of friendship, respect, commom decency? Well guess what, I did. I gave you all the power. I let you think its ok, and I believed it all myself. I just realized I can't lose any weight when you have the power. Because then I'm losing weight for you, and guess what, you mean NOTHING to me. I'm taking the power back, so take your opinions of me and shove them where the sun don't shine :) . The only persons opinion that matters anymore is mine, so screw you, and have a nice day. To all of you out there in the struggle with me, take your power back. Being skinny doesn't make you right, it just makes you more accepted. But why would any of us want to be accepted by someone who would call us a cow in the first place. Know this, you've got at least one friend. Next time you wanna cry, think of me and smile and tell whoevers judging you to f~ck off!! :lol: ;)

Love ya'll
Margie

P.S. If I've offended anybody, I don't care anymore :D

[Judynyc]

Good thoughts Margie!! :thup: :agree:

This is something you may want to put into your journal too...for those times when you need to read it again!! :idea: :D

[potatofree]

Go, Margie!!!

:D

[Mousesmom]

WTG Margie! Keep up the great attitude!

Julie

PS to anyone who have EVER called someone a "cow" or anything similar - you should be ashamed of yourself!!!!!! (I know no one here is guilty - it's just something in my psyche that needed to be said.....

[WyoDiva]

Boy, could I relate to what this post says. Thank you! And right back at you with the 'you've got a friend' thought. ;)

[astrid]

Thank you for sharing those words, just an awsome attitude.
POWER TO YOU!!!!!!

Astrid

[CourtneyUU]

As issues like racial prejudice, gender inequities, and judgement about sexual preferences become addressed in our societies-- not solved, mind you, but at least brought out into the light of day and shown for what they are -- "sizeism" unfortunately continues to flourish.

In the past, I've seen the disgust, heard the comments, and been guilty of either not defending myself or not defending the person the malice was directed towards. Never again will I be silent while someone is put down in this way. We all deserve better.

Your words ring with truth and righteousness, Margie! :thup:

[sublime]

Thank you All for your support!!I'm just fed up with feeling like I deserve the treatment given. I don't want to be ashamed anymore, and I'm not gonna be. And your right, so many issues are dealt with these days, but its still ok to pick on overweight people. Even shows that are supposed to be helping us(Biggest Loser) exploit those people in subtle ways. My theory, I'm fat, and I can lose weight, as hard as it may be. These people who I'm refering to have a cruel heart, and thats a lot harder to fix. I just pray that those of us who do get down to what society says is an acceptable size won't forget what they've been through and target anybody else. I don't care what all the health and news reports say, people don't look at the obese and think "Oh, I'm so concerned about your health". No, you and I know that the thoughts are about how gross and huge we are. Why don't we DO SOMETHING!? Well I am doing something, first of all, I'm not listening to you anymore. And theres still plenty of room on my big ass for everybody to kiss who doesn't like it. But hurry, its shrinking by the minute :lol:

Your partner in crime, Margie

[kuukuu]

These people who crap on us need to be charged for the therapy we're providing for them. They spew out all their negative BS trying to make themselves feel better. "Oh, sorry to hear your d*~k is soooo tiny. That'll be $30 bucks." I apologize to all of you for the ooze, but we've all had our bad experiences. And it's one of the reasons I'm divorced.

[sublime]

Wow, I think this thread is maybe becoming a good kind of therapy. I know it is for me. I try to be so upbeat and happy all the time, but sometimes I'm just pissed :lol: I don't feel so alone now, and I hope we can all come here and vent when we need too. Which with me will probly be often. Overweight people share a bond, wether we like it or not. I had to go out in public today, and I made a great effort to NOT care what other people thought of me. I did very well. I caught myself a couple times, then just let it all go. F%ck it. And it really helped :) :thup: :agree: Try it everybody, its a VERY empowering feeling. For once I didnt come home and want to crawl into the fetal position and shove food down my throat. Many small battles to win the war, right? :)

[kuukuu]

Just one question to all of you--the people who dump on you to take care of their emotional needs, (I don't really count the kids.. they have to be taken care of.) the abusers, the needy, bitchy friends, the family etc, they're thin aren't they? I'm with you sublime, I have enough to do to carry my own weight in this world. Let them carry their own weight. Fix it yourself, bitches!

[sublime]

I'm happy to say I've been practicing what I preach. I've had to venture out of the house numerous times this week, and I kept my head held up high. It really seems to help my overall attitude. Now I just have to keep me from beating myself up :lol: Hope you all are doing well, take care