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Crystal64
Sun, Oct-22-06, 10:07
’m a long-winded Canadian girl, 63 years young.
If you think you can’t do anything read on…
For those of you who are able this will be boring, I’m writing this with the hope that at least one person in my condition will find some inspiration.

I’ve been in bed since June 8, 2005. Except for some medical visits and a trip to the mall about a month ago. I travel on a scooter when I must go out. To make a long story shorter let me just say that I have lost my strength due to several falls, illnesses etc. I once weighed 414 pounds, today I weigh 284 pounds. I’m facing spine surgery and was told that swimming would be a big part of my post op therapy.

Yesterday I made up my mind that I was going to fight for my life, be strong enough to face surgery. My biggest fear was that nobody would be able to take care of me after surgery. I suffer with terrible anxiety or panic attacks and will admit to having five bad ones today.

My scooter is in for repairs so Wheel Trans picked me up at 1:00 PM with my walker. The long ride went Welland I enjoyed seeing all the beautiful trees as they change their colours.
Arrived at my doctors office at 2:30, got a B12 shot and discussed my surgery. I proceeded to go into the next building where the pool is located.

Attack #1 got stopped at the office and had to pay my annual membership fee. I can’t stand still, got that done with perspiration dripping into my eyes and you could hear my heart pounding.
Took the elevator to the basement, the pool door was locked, had to go back to the secretary for help. Entered the change room, took off my clothes, fought to get the walker through a stubborn door. Stepped into a shower stall, tried to use the hand held shower and hold onto the wall at the same time.

Panic #2 very bad. There wasn’t anyone else there so I said to heck with the shower, through another stupid door and was struck with horribly hot air. I didn’t die, I didn’t cry… Three steps down and I sank into the most beautiful warm water. I swear it felt like the gentle waves crept up and embraced me in such a loving way. I glanced at the clock, 3:00 Pm. Oh my God I love the water! I felt like a mermaid as I swam to and fro.
I was alone in the pool and I walked, front wards, backwards, and sideways. I decided to have some real fun so I put on my big pink goggles and a Speedo bathing cap and did some underwater diving.
I hate bathing caps they are too tight so I yanked it off and loved the freshness as the water drenched my curls.

An elderly couple came in and asked if it would bother me if they played ball. I stood with my back to them and did leg lifts. I could hear their breathing as they threw and caught the ball, and was aware of the good they were doing for their body. After half an hour they left and I took the ball. I remembered Blue_Denim_and Lace Sherry, teaching me how to do the Body Flex, so I worked it into the game of throwing the ball as hard as I could and swimming quickly to retrieve it. I had so much fun all by my lonesome.

At 6:pm I decided to get into the Hot Tub, It’s tricky getting in but I finally got seated and enjoyed the jets of water as they eased my muscles. I stayed there for ten minutes. Panic #3
I couldn’t get out, I huffed and puffed and struggled but couldn’t get my arms in position to hoist myself up. All I could think of was my husband would beat home waiting for me and they’d find me tomorrow shrivelled up like a prune.

Now panic is bad but if you use your head you can get through it. I convinced myself that there was a snake in there and I was determined to get out. I finally got my rear end on land and kinda scooted my way to the edge of the pool thinking I’d let myself fall in. No couldn’t do that either so I kept scooting till I got to the steps. Did you know you could sweat in water? Oh heavens the relief I felt to be back into that refreshing water. I swam until 6:45, got out of the pool and in comes some old friends who had to tell me all their problems and I’m shaking to beat the band.
I avoided the shower stall and the sauna room and finally sat on a much too low toilet. Stripped of my swimming suit, got dried. While trying to put my slacks on which got wet from the floor I vowed to never wear slacks there again. I knew I had time so I sat for about ten minutes trying to get my breathing back to normal. Panic # 4, couldn’t get up from the toilet, it was far too low and there was nothing to hold onto, the toilet paper holder was cheap and I knew it would crack with my weight. Do you believe me? Have you ever sat on something and couldn’t get up? Well I used the snake in the toilet idea and with a large cry I stood up.

I felt so hot and frightened. Made my way to the elevator and there stood someone that I did not ever want to see again! My hair was dripping, I was shaking, and I knew he could hear the air wheezing in my lungs. Finally got seated and caught my breath. Wanted something to read while waiting for my ride home, so I left my walker there and quite bravely walked over to the lounge and grabbed a magazine. Plopped my big fanny down and looked at the magazine. Finish, every word was written for people who came from Finland. So-kay, so I just sat there looking stupid.

7:15 still no bus? Tried to call home the cell phone wouldn’t work, while I was trying to call I spied the bus pulling away from the doctor’s entrance I began waving my arms like a lunatic panic #5 very bad attack. I still don’t know how I got outside and into the bus, but I did it and half an hour later we pulled up in front of our house. Hubby, Frank was standing there waiting and let me tell you, he’s been mine for forty-six years but I never ever loved him more than I did that moment. He brought everything in and had some nice brisket cooked, I ate a few pieces and stopped because I truly want to get this blubber off of me. I insisted on bringing my heavy bag upstairs alone and with great relief I sat on my beautiful raised seated toilet and emptied out all my wet suit and towels.

[B]The need to write this down was so great that while the computer was booting up I felt warm tears of Joy, peace, relief, gratitude, and comfort, do I need to go on? I had to write this because I knew that YOU might read this and know that you can do it too. Okay it was scary at times, really scary but fright doesn’t kill! That is what I learned today. I am so frikkin proud of myself right now. I look like hell and I stink like chlorine and I don’t have the energy to get a bath, but I’m happy and did I say, I’m so proud of what I accomplished and I’m going back again and again as long as I’m alive, I’ll get better.

If you read this, entire God bless you, and I love you dearly,
love Crystal

DrH
Sun, Oct-22-06, 10:14
What a moving story - you should feel proud of yourself....

MisterE
Sun, Oct-22-06, 10:34
You go, Girl!
Wishing you every success!

SunnyCarol
Sun, Oct-22-06, 10:41
I read it all--every word! Inspiring! I, too, have been there done that! You can do anything you set your mind to. Read my signature--those are words I live by.

I'm surprised that your legs worked at all with all you did in the water and out. I used to do just 1 hour of water therapy and when I would come out, it was all I could do to walk with two quad canes. Not as much trouble as going in.

If you pay for gym membership, there should be someone in the pool area at all times! This is one area where the USA is ahead of Canada in the way the access for the disabled are not as well protected. I spent years trying to get Canada to improve how they give assistance to the disabled in buildings, ferries and public transportation. There was some improvement, but not much.

My best to you. You will succeed if you keep the attitude that you can do anything you set your mind on doing.

Sunny!

Mousesmom
Sun, Oct-22-06, 11:21
Crystal, you are truly an inspiration.

As I read your story, tears came to my eyes. I wish you well for your surgery and recovery.

All the best, Julie

Crystal64
Sun, Oct-22-06, 12:05
Thanks everyone for the kind replies.
I'm feeling angry with myself this morning because I'm now going through a nasty withdrawl from Nicorette gum. True it helped me quit smoking cigarettes but now quitting the gum is almost as difficult.

Oooops this sounds like a ranting morning but I'm going to write about it.

This week I didn't lose anything and was very disapointed but in my heart I knew it was my own fault. No big binges just some deliberate stupid choices.
I did great off of the coffee don't know why but it stalls me. I'm back to drinking huge mugs of boiled water with the juice from a lemon and Splenda.

Eating breakfast sausage was working well for me I found a Maple flavoured syrup NS made by Cary's I use it on the breakfast sausage and eggs.

For lunch I was having a big green salad with some feta cheese, boiiled eggs and avacado. Using Greek or Ranch dressing.

Supper whatever meat going and a sliced tomato and a vegetable

Small plain yogurt with a pack of Splenda or Dill pickles to snack on.

I was upset yesterday and refused to eat the sausages because they had breadcrumbs in them, I was hungry like a wolf and ended up caving and eating Rye King crackers with a bunch of cream cheese. How stupid was that? :agree:

Another thing I'm eating too many sugar free hard candies.
Well tomorrow morning I'm going to get back to my good pattern. That doesn't mean I'm going to pig out today it just means that I'll send hubby to get the bacon, sausages, Omega-3 eggs, avacados, and lemons. If I don't have what I need I'll mess up.

I'm getting the flu and yesterday I made a great brisket stew but at the end I added some wild rice another stupid deliberate deed, We are going to finish it off for lunch can't waste a good stew.

Let's all have a day that will bring us closer to the goals we made.

love Crystal

Crystal64
Sun, Oct-22-06, 12:23
I just felt a shiver of fear
creeping up my spine...
I never feared responsibility
raising seven children of mine.

I've taken care of many
think I did a good job too
While my inner child cried
'cause she's always been blue.

The last time I saw her
She had just turned three
I thought I was protecting her
hidden inside of me.

Sometimes I look in the mirror
and I can see her eyes...
And if I'm very quiet
I can hear her cries.

She doesn't trust me anymore
because I lied too many times...
But her voice is heard daily
She's the one that often rhymes.

I'm praying for the strength
to at last set wee Crystal free...
To taste a normal life at last
living outside of me.

I fed her supper tonight
This healthy food has her confused
She still cries out for junk food
and other crutches that I've used.

I'm taking her swimming tomorrow
and she'll laugh and squeal with glee
I'm gonna make her frikin proud
To have a mommy like me!

Love Crystal

Crystal64
Sun, Oct-22-06, 14:19
Sheesh, another wasted day, Dr said to elevate right leg, apply ice and rest. It is so annoying.

I just had a conversation with a friend and she had me so angry.

I am the first person to admit that I sabotaged my weight loss so many times, simply because I want what I want when I want it.

What she was stressing was that I might be deliberately having accidents to prevent myself from succeeding. I have heard of that theory before, but I guarantee you that I would not through myself down flights of stairs or get my leg mangled in a revolving door or have strokes, heart failure etc to stall my weight loss.

I do not have any secret fear of success I'm not afraid of looking better and slimmer, I do not protect myself by remaining fat and undesirable, if I wanted to be a hussy at 414 pounds I would have done it.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and as many of you larger women know we don't have trouble attracting men. If you are big like me and aren't attracting men it isn't because you can't you are just sending out the wrong signals. I'm going to be 63 and to this day I know I would be able to find a man. probably never like the one I have....... but a decent man.

Attitude is everything. People feel when you like yourself, they are physically and mentally attracted to a woman who can give an innocent smile while her eyes are flashing mischief............

Oh my gosh where has all this come from?

See how I ramble when I allow someone to hurt me?

Please forgive me when I come here to write, it usually means that I've just kept myself from cheating.
Thanks for reading my rant

Love Crystal
:annoyed: :eek: :dunno:[/QUOTE]

Crystal64
Sun, Oct-22-06, 15:31
Sorry I'm posting in the wrong place thought it was my journal, I will learn!

Crystal64
Sat, Oct-28-06, 14:51
KEEPER

I remember so well the day my mother died.

And on that clear, cold morning, I cried.

In the warmth of my bedroom, I sat…

I was struck with the pain of learning that…

Sometimes there isn't any more.

No more hugs, no more…

Lucky moments to celebrate together,

No more phone calls about whatever?

Sometimes, what we care about a lot…

Goes away, never to return, I kid you not!

Before we can say good-bye,

Say, "I’ll ove you. Till the day I die!"

So while we have it . . . think a bit-

It's best we love it, and care for it.

And fix it when it's sick or broken. .

And take care of words spoken.

This is true for marriage ... and friendships....

And our beloved dogs with bad hips.

Children with bad report cards; feeling blue

And aging parents and grandparents too.

We keep them because they are worth it,

Because we cherish them, think about this a bit.

Some things we naturally keep –

Like a best friend who’s neat!

There are just some things we’ve got

That makes us happy, no matter what.

Life is important, so are the people we chose

and that’s the reason we keep them close!

Thank you very much for being a special part

of this lifetime on earth, and my sweetheart!

Have an awesome day and know…

That someone’s with you wherever you go…


I will always- always love you! Crystal

MicheleK
Sat, Oct-28-06, 14:58
I would like to say to you...

You are an amazing woman. You've touched me so deeply I cannot even express the feelings you've stirred up in my soul.

God bless you my dear friend, you are an inspiration to us all.

Love,
Michele

IrishShrty
Sat, Oct-28-06, 18:32
KEEPER

I remember so well the day my mother died.

And on that clear, cold morning, I cried.

In the warmth of my bedroom, I sat…

I was struck with the pain of learning that…

Sometimes there isn't any more.

No more hugs, no more…

Lucky moments to celebrate together,

No more phone calls about whatever?

Sometimes, what we care about a lot…

Goes away, never to return, I kid you not!

Before we can say good-bye,

Say, "I’ll ove you. Till the day I die!"

So while we have it . . . think a bit-

It's best we love it, and care for it.

And fix it when it's sick or broken. .

And take care of words spoken.

This is true for marriage ... and friendships....

And our beloved dogs with bad hips.

Children with bad report cards; feeling blue

And aging parents and grandparents too.

We keep them because they are worth it,

Because we cherish them, think about this a bit.

Some things we naturally keep –

Like a best friend who’s neat!

There are just some things we’ve got

That makes us happy, no matter what.

Life is important, so are the people we chose

and that’s the reason we keep them close!

Thank you very much for being a special part

of this lifetime on earth, and my sweetheart!

Have an awesome day and know…

That someone’s with you wherever you go…


I will always- always love you! Crystal
:rose: :rose: :rose: :rose: :rose: :tears:

perfectfit
Sat, Oct-28-06, 19:34
’m a long-winded Canadian girl, 63 years young.
If you think you can’t do anything read on…
For those of you who are able this will be boring, I’m writing this with the hope that at least one person in my condition will find some inspiration.

I’ve been in bed since June 8, 2005. Except for some medical visits and a trip to the mall about a month ago. I travel on a scooter when I must go out. To make a long story shorter let me just say that I have lost my strength due to several falls, illnesses etc. I once weighed 414 pounds, today I weigh 284 pounds. I’m facing spine surgery and was told that swimming would be a big part of my post op therapy.

Yesterday I made up my mind that I was going to fight for my life, be strong enough to face surgery. My biggest fear was that nobody would be able to take care of me after surgery. I suffer with terrible anxiety or panic attacks and will admit to having five bad ones today.

My scooter is in for repairs so Wheel Trans picked me up at 1:00 PM with my walker. The long ride went Welland I enjoyed seeing all the beautiful trees as they change their colours.
Arrived at my doctors office at 2:30, got a B12 shot and discussed my surgery. I proceeded to go into the next building where the pool is located.

Attack #1 got stopped at the office and had to pay my annual membership fee. I can’t stand still, got that done with perspiration dripping into my eyes and you could hear my heart pounding.
Took the elevator to the basement, the pool door was locked, had to go back to the secretary for help. Entered the change room, took off my clothes, fought to get the walker through a stubborn door. Stepped into a shower stall, tried to use the hand held shower and hold onto the wall at the same time.

Panic #2 very bad. There wasn’t anyone else there so I said to heck with the shower, through another stupid door and was struck with horribly hot air. I didn’t die, I didn’t cry… Three steps down and I sank into the most beautiful warm water. I swear it felt like the gentle waves crept up and embraced me in such a loving way. I glanced at the clock, 3:00 Pm. Oh my God I love the water! I felt like a mermaid as I swam to and fro.
I was alone in the pool and I walked, front wards, backwards, and sideways. I decided to have some real fun so I put on my big pink goggles and a Speedo bathing cap and did some underwater diving.
I hate bathing caps they are too tight so I yanked it off and loved the freshness as the water drenched my curls.

An elderly couple came in and asked if it would bother me if they played ball. I stood with my back to them and did leg lifts. I could hear their breathing as they threw and caught the ball, and was aware of the good they were doing for their body. After half an hour they left and I took the ball. I remembered Blue_Denim_and Lace Sherry, teaching me how to do the Body Flex, so I worked it into the game of throwing the ball as hard as I could and swimming quickly to retrieve it. I had so much fun all by my lonesome.

At 6:pm I decided to get into the Hot Tub, It’s tricky getting in but I finally got seated and enjoyed the jets of water as they eased my muscles. I stayed there for ten minutes. Panic #3
I couldn’t get out, I huffed and puffed and struggled but couldn’t get my arms in position to hoist myself up. All I could think of was my husband would beat home waiting for me and they’d find me tomorrow shrivelled up like a prune.

Now panic is bad but if you use your head you can get through it. I convinced myself that there was a snake in there and I was determined to get out. I finally got my rear end on land and kinda scooted my way to the edge of the pool thinking I’d let myself fall in. No couldn’t do that either so I kept scooting till I got to the steps. Did you know you could sweat in water? Oh heavens the relief I felt to be back into that refreshing water. I swam until 6:45, got out of the pool and in comes some old friends who had to tell me all their problems and I’m shaking to beat the band.
I avoided the shower stall and the sauna room and finally sat on a much too low toilet. Stripped of my swimming suit, got dried. While trying to put my slacks on which got wet from the floor I vowed to never wear slacks there again. I knew I had time so I sat for about ten minutes trying to get my breathing back to normal. Panic # 4, couldn’t get up from the toilet, it was far too low and there was nothing to hold onto, the toilet paper holder was cheap and I knew it would crack with my weight. Do you believe me? Have you ever sat on something and couldn’t get up? Well I used the snake in the toilet idea and with a large cry I stood up.

I felt so hot and frightened. Made my way to the elevator and there stood someone that I did not ever want to see again! My hair was dripping, I was shaking, and I knew he could hear the air wheezing in my lungs. Finally got seated and caught my breath. Wanted something to read while waiting for my ride home, so I left my walker there and quite bravely walked over to the lounge and grabbed a magazine. Plopped my big fanny down and looked at the magazine. Finish, every word was written for people who came from Finland. So-kay, so I just sat there looking stupid.

7:15 still no bus? Tried to call home the cell phone wouldn’t work, while I was trying to call I spied the bus pulling away from the doctor’s entrance I began waving my arms like a lunatic panic #5 very bad attack. I still don’t know how I got outside and into the bus, but I did it and half an hour later we pulled up in front of our house. Hubby, Frank was standing there waiting and let me tell you, he’s been mine for forty-six years but I never ever loved him more than I did that moment. He brought everything in and had some nice brisket cooked, I ate a few pieces and stopped because I truly want to get this blubber off of me. I insisted on bringing my heavy bag upstairs alone and with great relief I sat on my beautiful raised seated toilet and emptied out all my wet suit and towels.

[B]The need to write this down was so great that while the computer was booting up I felt warm tears of Joy, peace, relief, gratitude, and comfort, do I need to go on? I had to write this because I knew that YOU might read this and know that you can do it too. Okay it was scary at times, really scary but fright doesn’t kill! That is what I learned today. I am so frikkin proud of myself right now. I look like hell and I stink like chlorine and I don’t have the energy to get a bath, but I’m happy and did I say, I’m so proud of what I accomplished and I’m going back again and again as long as I’m alive, I’ll get better.

If you read this, entire God bless you, and I love you dearly,
love Crystal

Oh I know you. You're CaroleK from another low carb forum.

Welcome to lowcarber.org

joesfolks
Sat, Oct-28-06, 20:40
Crystal, you sound like such a special person. so very talented and wise. What a pleasure it must be to be your friend!

LattéLover
Sat, Oct-28-06, 20:58
Thanks for touching me so deeply tonight; I needed it.

Latté Lover

sloslo1
Sat, Oct-28-06, 22:53
thanks crystal you have inspired me ,Thanks again

Annie1gi
Sun, Oct-29-06, 05:19
Hey Crystal,

Good for you for keeping on task regardless of whatever gets in your way, you are an inspiration for all of us! Good luck to you!

Hugs, Annie

Crystal64
Tue, Oct-31-06, 09:09
Hey Crystal,

Good for you for keeping on task regardless of whatever gets in your way, you are an inspiration for all of us! Good luck to you!

Hugs, Annie
Thanks so much Annie. I used the name Crystal to sign on to this board with however my real name is Carole. Crstal is the name I chose for the three year old inner child who has been screaming to be free for sixty years. Crystal is about to be parolled from the prison of fat that I put her in. I hid Crystal from the horror of her childhood but that was wrong, she wants to be free, love Carole/Crystal :wave: :wave: