Why can't WE be like this guy ? !!!!

[Bill L]

Sometimes I have lunch with my friend at work. I'm 6'-4" and 250. He is 5'-7" and 120.

He will order a small salad and leave half of it. Then says "I'm full."

OOOOHHHH MY GOSSSHHHH!!!!! His stomach must be the size of a golf ball !!!

Then I say... "You can't be full!"
Then he says... "I don't have much interest in food."

The only problem with living like that is, he is missing out on one of the joys of life... GOOD FOOD!

(It's tempting to hate this guy!..... just kidding...) ;)

[cs_carver]

Don't know whether the relationship would sustain the questioning--but maybe, find out why he's that way? What happened in his life that he DIDN'T learn to turn to food for comfort? Maybe he was just too nervous to eat as a child, or there were fights at the dinner table, or ??? Maybe his mother couldn't cook, or there was no mother in the home?

(Again, not all relationships can withstand this level of disclosure. I make up stories when I don't know the facts, and that can be comforting too.)

My trick for finding my way past that kind of envy: If you want PART of someone's life (eg a skill like that), you still have to take the WHOLE thing--ALL of what contributed to his being thin. Quite probably, if you knew the whole story, you'd be grateful to have the problems you have and not his. (And this counts for the future, too--what might he struggle with simply BECAUSE he can't eat much?)

[Bill L]

What happened in his life that he DIDN'T learn to turn to food for comfort? Maybe he was just too nervous to eat as a child, or there were fights at the dinner table, or ??? Maybe his mother couldn't cook, or there was no mother in the home?

I think some people are just that way.

Like me, for example. I don't like golf. Most men think I'm crazy. That's just the way it is.

He's just more interested in other things (cars, sports, his kids).

[goldfish]

I am always amazed by people like that!! I think my food obsession has decreased with LC, but I couldn't say I'm not interested in food. It's hard for me to relate!

[TarHeel]

Bill:

I'm a bit like that myself. At least, while low carbing. I have to remind myself to eat at least something every few hours. I'm seldom hungry.

On the other hand, before LC, my idea of a snack after work was a bag of Utz Salt and Pepper chips, or crunchy Cheetos.

Good food--- a really nice steak with mushrooms and butter and asparagus, still tempts me, but I seldom fix that just for myself these days. I need to go out to restaurants to do that.

It really is different being short, by the way. I wouldn't expect you to be satisfied with a small salad.

Kay

[Ayustar]

He may have an eating disorder actually, almost by the sounds of it. Something called 'manorexia." Silly as it sounds, it exsists, it just doesn't strike women like a lot of people believe. Let's hope it isn't that.

[nawchem]

I've heard you can tell what kind of a lover a guy is by the way he eats. Just salad, done fast- not interested!

[wykitt23]

The only thing I am concerned about is... did you say.. "Are you gonna eat that?"

Hhehehehe

[camaromom]

ROFLMAO!! Thanks nawchem for the laugh. Too funny.

[RDW]

Sometimes I have lunch with my friend at work. I'm 6'-4" and 250. He is 5'-7" and 120.

Heck, 5'-7" and 120 would be a helluva lot better than 5'-6" and 240, but to tell you the truth, I'd rather be 6'-4" and 250 :D

[Annabel33]

I can tell you what that is:

He's not a woman, looking after children all day, so he never has to think what the next meal is going to be. He doesn't have to plan anything... He's not thinking about anyone elses food or nutrition.:D

He's either married and his wife does everything or he's a single guy ... either way he's got no passion. Let's hope he makes up for it in other areas of his life! :lol:

Actually, my husband is like this. Eats what he's given and doesn't put any weight on. Quite happy to eat a small serving and leave it at that. His brain tells him he's full. Cool!
I was worried when I first met him, but he's great in bed, so it was ok.
;)

[Bill L]

The only thing I am concerned about is... did you say.. "Are you gonna eat that?"

Hhehehehe
I just spewed my coffee !!!!! That would be typical of me ! :) No, I didn't ask, but I wish I had!

[deirdra]

I know a guy like that - he eats candy bars all day & isn't hungry at meals yet stays skinny - it is very tempting to hate him!

[runnr]

I've met men who are totally uninterested in food as well (albeit, they aren't quite that skinny). They have to "remember" to eat

I don't get it, personally, but hey, whatever works!

[Nancy LC]

I've heard you can tell what kind of a lover a guy is by the way he eats. Just salad, done fast- not interested!

LOL! Now, now, you never know. He might have nibbled delicately on his spinach for 30 minutes.

[scthgharpy]

Manorexia. Thats funny. Im reminded of an SLK fake ad for Gaystrogen. "because its your problem, not theirs"

Maybe the guy is a low carber too. Who knows, perhaps he has battled being overweight and watches his food intake now very, very carefully.

[black57]

I was like this guy, once. I was skinny. I had to give birth to 3 kids before my appetite changed. I filled up on food very easily and never wanted seconds. I don't kow if it was my stomach being so little, insulin stability or what. After having children and getting into the workforce, I began eating like a starved animal. I can eat anything, now. Because of my "old" appetite, I knew that there was something wrong with eating so much food all day long. Without low carbing, I would not have any control over my appetite at all.

[Bill L]

I was like this guy, once. I was skinny. I had to give birth to 3 kids before .........

My wife was exactly like that! She barely weighed 110 pounds when we got married and stayed that way until the twins were born (20 years ago).....

That's when the metabolism really slowed down, and now she has to battle her weight every day......

[Annabel33]

Bill, if that's the case, then she should really see an Endo about her adrenal system or thyroid problems. We accept the things childbirth does to our system without a question because 'it happens' but it's not normal.
Do get her to a doc. She shouldn't have to battle like this. Sure it is a little harder as time goes on and metabolism slows, but it shouldn't be this hard.

[Equinox]

My trick for finding my way past that kind of envy: If you want PART of someone's life (eg a skill like that), you still have to take the WHOLE thing--ALL of what contributed to his being thin. Quite probably, if you knew the whole story, you'd be grateful to have the problems you have and not his.



Very true. I was in law school a couple of years back (I later quit, so don't call me a lawyer, I'm not!), and a friend of mine was taking criminology at the same university. We had a lot of lectures together and used to sit together. She is movie-star thin and wears gorgeous clothes. She's obviously got a little money (though she works hard, I know), and she buys clothes that makes her look like a model. I would give a lot to be thin like that, except I wouldn't like to be QUITE so thin.

She told me one day what her problem is. She's one of those people that can't get fat, and she would like to. She just doesn't gain weight! That seemed like a bit of a luxury problem to me when she said it; and here I'd been wondering if she was anorexic, but she really has a problem with this. Apparently, her doctor can't make head nor tails of it, but her therapist suggested that it was connected to a lot of emotional problems she has from wartime trauma. She's from Bosnia, and has memories that I would definitely not want...

[black57]

Equinox, back to your statement, when I was quite thin, I was also dealing with alot of stress. My stress was unnecesary. I was dealing with an overbearing boyfriend and college. I really wanted to put on weight and could not. I still had no appetite but I ate until I was full. I am sure experiencing Bosnia would have kept me quite thin as well. Some people react to stress by overeating some are the oposite. I know a pregnant armodillo will remain pregnant if she is under stress and won't give birth until the stress has passed. The fetus will go into a suspended animation state.