steaksauce
Fri, Apr-15-05, 17:28
Ladies, please call me Steaksauce, but the name comes from a different reason than the low- carb stuff. I was urged to post a reply that I wrote to Senior member Rodmick, who suggested that I open my words to more of you. I decided to post it here.... I hope this is an appropriate home. So here goes:
First, lemme say that curvygirls are hot as blazing buffalo wing sauce! Don't be so hard on yourselves... When guys watch you, they just can't stop seeing the beautiful curves!
All you women.... You get many guys sooooo frustrated and red/blue in the face when we tell you all that although you're on a quest that will take you where you'll feel better (hopefully!) about yourselves, that so often, y'all wind up beating yourselves up when you shouldn't be doing anything but lopping praise on (like a dollup of mayonaise, Atkins- style!) What's the point in being pickayune about things, when really, many fellas love a woman who has the glow in her smile and confidence in herself. The thighs or breasts (are we talking the low- carb, unbreaded chicken??!!! AHHH!) and the tummy, from a guy's perspective, is part of the beauty and aura of a woman who the right guy can't stand being away from.
Who made you women feel that having those beautiful curves somehow means that you're less- than appealing? Just like the woman I wrote about, kelly77. How often we men are ignored by women, who tend to think that a guy looking her way thinks she's unattractive. How often I've made eye contact with a curvygirl (prrrrr......) and she looks away or looks down. How often do compliments get rejected while a single comment can be misconstrued into an emotional beat-down on her physical being? Ugghhhh!
Please, ladies, relax. Men love you. Well, both good and bad men, but hey, they still do! You have the attraction, the appeal, that yum that guys turn into putty over, but you don't believe in that appeal, so you reject it, which has a good chance of rejecting the man that you deny must feel what he does. Please, we're talking about the initial attraction, as well as the long- term one, too. I'm not looking at women as all physical, but if the guys like what they see, let them swallow their own drool!
Some -- many -- feel that you just can't turn attraction on. No, you can't. Attraction isn't worth a hill of beans unless it comes from you, though. Who cares whether someone accepts us, unless we accept ourselves? Does it even matter if someone, or a whole army, accepts us if we reject ourselves? Rejection has so much more to do from our inner demons than from any person you don't know, or know well. Maybe you can pull some good feelings from the beautiful heart you have. I'm sure most of you are selfless and giving. Most probably have caring hearts, and would give so much to someone who is worth giving to. Well, guess what? You've answered the first task... give back to yourself. Give yourself a mental embrace that comes from your own heart, that you're a beautiful person. If there were more people with the same giving hearts and sensitivities that you have, wouldn't this world be so much better? Make it better, then, one person at a time, starting with giving yourself credit for being sweet, caring, loyal, sensitive, charming, and worth the effort.
Well, I guess that's all I have to say about that. If you want, just drop a note here, maybe I can help if you just need some emotional support from someone who cares about others, too.
Steaksauce
PS- I wish I knew where that one post from kelly77 was, it tore my heart. Why be alone? Why feel rejected? Why feel so tortured? I hope all of you step up to the plate and reach out to someone, from your soul, your spirit, your very being. This weight loss crap can sometimes pummel a tender heart to the point of failure, so please, just reach out a hand and a heart and help dust someone off and walk with them for a while so their inner strength feels like they aren't alone, after all. Sorry if I talk too much, and I added some since my original post. And don't scold me about spellchecks, I'd do it, but would probably start editing this down.
First, lemme say that curvygirls are hot as blazing buffalo wing sauce! Don't be so hard on yourselves... When guys watch you, they just can't stop seeing the beautiful curves!
All you women.... You get many guys sooooo frustrated and red/blue in the face when we tell you all that although you're on a quest that will take you where you'll feel better (hopefully!) about yourselves, that so often, y'all wind up beating yourselves up when you shouldn't be doing anything but lopping praise on (like a dollup of mayonaise, Atkins- style!) What's the point in being pickayune about things, when really, many fellas love a woman who has the glow in her smile and confidence in herself. The thighs or breasts (are we talking the low- carb, unbreaded chicken??!!! AHHH!) and the tummy, from a guy's perspective, is part of the beauty and aura of a woman who the right guy can't stand being away from.
Who made you women feel that having those beautiful curves somehow means that you're less- than appealing? Just like the woman I wrote about, kelly77. How often we men are ignored by women, who tend to think that a guy looking her way thinks she's unattractive. How often I've made eye contact with a curvygirl (prrrrr......) and she looks away or looks down. How often do compliments get rejected while a single comment can be misconstrued into an emotional beat-down on her physical being? Ugghhhh!
Please, ladies, relax. Men love you. Well, both good and bad men, but hey, they still do! You have the attraction, the appeal, that yum that guys turn into putty over, but you don't believe in that appeal, so you reject it, which has a good chance of rejecting the man that you deny must feel what he does. Please, we're talking about the initial attraction, as well as the long- term one, too. I'm not looking at women as all physical, but if the guys like what they see, let them swallow their own drool!
Some -- many -- feel that you just can't turn attraction on. No, you can't. Attraction isn't worth a hill of beans unless it comes from you, though. Who cares whether someone accepts us, unless we accept ourselves? Does it even matter if someone, or a whole army, accepts us if we reject ourselves? Rejection has so much more to do from our inner demons than from any person you don't know, or know well. Maybe you can pull some good feelings from the beautiful heart you have. I'm sure most of you are selfless and giving. Most probably have caring hearts, and would give so much to someone who is worth giving to. Well, guess what? You've answered the first task... give back to yourself. Give yourself a mental embrace that comes from your own heart, that you're a beautiful person. If there were more people with the same giving hearts and sensitivities that you have, wouldn't this world be so much better? Make it better, then, one person at a time, starting with giving yourself credit for being sweet, caring, loyal, sensitive, charming, and worth the effort.
Well, I guess that's all I have to say about that. If you want, just drop a note here, maybe I can help if you just need some emotional support from someone who cares about others, too.
Steaksauce
PS- I wish I knew where that one post from kelly77 was, it tore my heart. Why be alone? Why feel rejected? Why feel so tortured? I hope all of you step up to the plate and reach out to someone, from your soul, your spirit, your very being. This weight loss crap can sometimes pummel a tender heart to the point of failure, so please, just reach out a hand and a heart and help dust someone off and walk with them for a while so their inner strength feels like they aren't alone, after all. Sorry if I talk too much, and I added some since my original post. And don't scold me about spellchecks, I'd do it, but would probably start editing this down.