really?

[jemman]

Don't cry out loud,
Just keep it inside,
And learn how to hide your feelings.
Fly high and proud.
And if you should fall,
Remember you almost made it.

Don't cry out loud,
Just keep it inside,
And learn how to hide your feelings.
Fly high and proud.
And if you should fall,
Remember you almost had it all.

when i heard this song on AI last night, it really spoke to me in a way it never has before. i wonder if i should take it seriously or not... im such a complainer. i used to be a represser until it tore me up inside and i ended up really depressed- i was told i need to express my feelings and talk about how i feel, but now- years later i've realized that i have turned into a "whiner" and that people get annoyed with me because of it... however, i know if i go back to the way i was before, it'll end up ugly. maybe i need to find another outlet? start an online journal or something because really theres nothing to make me feel better except for venting haha coupled with that, i like to get advice on what i should do or how i should handle things from my friends and family, but like i said, i feel like they get sick of me "complaining" oh- i just dont know.

[memaw O5]

I have a daughter( actualy I have 4) but one use to keep everything inside too until she filled up and there was no room for anymore stuff in there. She still is sorry for everything, even if she was not in town when it happened. Her husband is a very uptight stressed out person who gets worked up about every thing. She was always trying to keep him in check by doing everthing perfect. Well that don't work and she blew a gasket. One day she came to visit but she had more luggage than you need for a weekend and we figured she was there to stay, but she went back and has since learned to let it out, but like you she feels bad about it. I think a journal is a good idea. I keep one and though I don't write in every day when I can not deal with painful feelings I put them on paper and pray for help. There are things we can not fix in the system we live in but there are ways to cope. There are groups that share feelings I was in Coda for a while and it helped. Here on line you are always able to share and noone has to answer but if they do you know they are concerned and want to help. We all have to learn from each other and life experiences how best to deal with our own load. I can't carry yours for you but I might help lighten it from time to time.

[MeltingFst]

I find journaling the best way to deal with those "whinny demons" that float in & out of my life. You'd be surprised at how much insight you get about yourself after keeping one for a period of time. Once you record your feelings, you can choose to do something about them, or just vent on paper over & over again. Its effective and cheap therapy, and you'll feel better.